No Social Life, Don't Drive, Lonely.. but Happy? (I guess I'm just looking for motivation..)
No social life, offline friends, I don't drive and I'm lonely all the time. I live with my parents (I'm 36) because I don't have a job and can't get anywhere on my own. I am blind in my left eye (since birth, ROP stage V) and have always been scared to drive. I also keep getting denied for SSI, even though everybody has said it is supposed to be automatically approved because of the reason.
We don't live close enough to public transit (the closest stop is only about half a mile away, but the street I live on isn't safe to walk up and down) to grab a bus and can't afford an uber/lyft all the time, as most places are at least 10-15 minutes/miles away if not much longer. I get encouraged because I am hearing back/about possible jobs but they are all 30-40+ miles away (each way) and it would actually cost me about $100 more then I would be making a week to get there.. and as one of the places is the airport, that doesn't include Uber/Lyft surge charges, etc.. so I'd be paying a lot more to get there then I actually would working.
I've talked to online theropirst before (another company). She diagnosed with me extreme social anxeity, general anxiety, testing anxiety, PTSD and extreme/major depression. I'm sure other things as well I just can't remember. She wouldn't document any of this though (outside of the message to me) because she said she didn't beleive in medication, etc. :( I know about half of those I've had my whole/most of my life. I've just never got assistance for it and am on Medicaid at the moment, so don't even know where to start as I haven't been able to make appointments, etc since joining with a PCP, let alone even being reffered to somebody else.
With all of that said (so sorry for the spelling mistakes and it being so long) I try to stay positive and happy, or at least I attempt to be and try to not think about all the bad things. Anybody have ideas on how to help, etc? Activities you like to do in the house? I try to walk when I can outside and such but have ankle issues, so can only walk a mile or so before my ankle really starts hurting. I walk inside (and most days I like it) but it can get boring. I just started cross-stitch but even with magnifier and light it's hard for me to see the holes in the fabric because of my vision. I love listening to music and reading, etc but even those get boring. :(
Hi @ValerieA84
That sounds very...very tough condition to deal with. Hugs 💙
I don't know if that's how professional therapist should do, but diagnose someone with so many issues like that doesn't sounds very encouraging for me.
How do you feel about being diagnosed with many issues? Which one you wish to tackle first and why?
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@ouiCherie Some of them weren't a surprise to me (Anxieties and Depression) as those have things I feel like I've always dealt with my whole life, at least for the last 20+ years anyhow. PTSD took me as surprise - but I think that was mostly because I was one of those people that almost always exclusively thought of PTSD as being related to Military, etc.. and I don't really know why.
My vision is one of the things I've always dealt with, since well... I've never known anything else.. and until it was time to drive (or when i lose my jobs, which they say isn't, but I think each time was related to not being able to see multiple things at once - as it was always just me working) and I realized how much it actually freaked me out.
I think sorting out my social anxiety would really help though, as her only 'advice' was to get out and do things :| So.. um.. okay? Lol.
That's great @ValerieA84 that you have decided to deal with social anxiety first 💙
And exposure is indeed one of the effective way to overcome social anxiety
How do you feel about that? And what are options you have in mind to try it? 🙂
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