Anxious to leave home (go outside)
I'm 31 and I'm a VERY sociable person. But having moved to another country far away from home, I've lost contact with 99% of my friends (apparently nobody ever needed you, you were just convenient).
I have only 1-2 friends... acquaintances here and that's making me crazy. If it were not for my parents and work, I would've gone weeks without talking to anyone.
I've recently noticed that I get severely anxious whenever I have to go outside during weekends. I get nervous, I remember tons of things I could be doing instead of going anywhere and end up staying at home. Even though I love being outside (IF I get outside). For past year I've spent almost all my weekends alone at home. I spent my birthday alone, New Year, Christmas - everything.
Even though I feel lonely, I can't go outside. And I'm 31. I used to be always in the spotlight (not bragging or anything) but now I'm a bit scared of what I've become. I don't want to live like that.
I'm not sure how to deal with it and I don't want any of the people I know to know about it.
@funnyThinker809
Hi there and welcome to 7 cups! I relate so strongly to what you're going through and just reading your post makes me feel less alone. I moved to a new country 7 months ago and find myself in a similar situation. Maintaining relationships 'back home' can be very difficult and takes effort as it's switching the dynamic of the relationship (which not everyone is willing to do unfortunately). I like to think of it as just because two people are great coworkers, doesn't mean they would make good roommates or travel partners. I wonder what might be causing the anxiety..as a social person, perhaps your confidence/identiy has been shaken as you are no longer surrounded by strong connections. It could also be a change in culture, not feeling like people understand you yet. For whatever reason, know that it's a normal reaction that many people experience. Things that have worked for me include writing out all of my fears before heading out and then writing how it was when i return. Setting small goals (like say one sentence to one person). Looking at meetup groups in my area has proven helpful (even ones for people with anxiety) as it gives me a purpose and opportunity to meet others, but with no expectation.
I know this is really long, but hopefully it helps ease your mind a bit. We're always here if you need someone to connect with!
