Will it all be okay....
My husband is going through depression, which means I am too. It is the hardest thing I have ever gone through with him and we have been together for 35 years (since we were 14). He went away this past week to spend some time alone and he is returning tomorrow. I am so excited to have him coming back home, but I am so anxious that he is going to be so sad still and that he may have enjoyed his time away from me more than miss me. I'm seeing a therapist to help me help myself so I can help him. She is trying to get me to work on myself and I have always bashed myself, as my husband says I am my worst enemy. I just feel my purpose in life is to make others happy, it makes me happy. SO I am in for a huge journey to love myself. I don't even know what that really means??? It's very scary...
@Happyhikergirl3
Believe it or not you do the opposite. Which I know is a bit shocking and sad. By focousing so much on others, you ignore yourself and people feel that. Your husband might feel how sad you feel, how you don't take care of your own happiness. Even if you hide it well it will show in body language, your speech and in decision making.
You have to be happy for YOU. Not for your husband, not for everyone else. For YOU. Only when YOU are happy, is when your relationships will work.
In terms of him feeling better alone, well that was the goal of him getting some time alone. Sometimes in life we need to stop everything and breath. Get our energies so we can move foward. Is not a competition when he is the happiest, you can't be that cruel to yourself and him, it isn't fair. Is a matter when he is happy and when you are happy. That's the only thing that matters, when you both are happy individually and together.
