Need some much needed advice
I don’t have many friends because keeping my bubble small but now I feel like it’s starting to harm me. I got back into Bartending because I thought it would be good to get out of the house but then I just found myself drinking to deal with how I was feeling so I stopped. I don’t know how meet genuine people and build friends without over compensating for having anxiety. My friends that I’ve had since middle school or the past 10 years just didn’t understand how I couldn’t get out of bed sometimes and told me I’m terrible person because I’m so up and down. My lack of friends now is making me feel like a failure. Does it get easier? How do you all handle challenges like these?
Hey Chickie. First of all from someone in a similar situation please know your feelings are totally valid. It is extremely hard when you feel your close friend group doesn’t understand what your going through. I actually recently lost connection with a few close friends because I have been dealing with major anxiety and depression. They looked at me like damaged goods and retreated. I beat myself up about it and cried. We have to remind ourselves that we are good enough and we deserve support. I think some people truly don’t know how to be there so they avoid or say the wrong things. I had and continue to remind myself everyday that I am not broken or defined by ups and downs. ❤️