Annoyed with myself
So last night, one of my friends started venting in the group chat at night. At that time, I was already asleep, but everyone else apparently wasn’t, and comforted her.
I feel terrible now, as I’m worried they’ve all grown closer without me now, and that I’ll be slowly phased out of the group. This is a completely new group by the way, we only met last week.
Im annoyed with myself bcos I’m always like this. I mess one thing up and I’m worried no one will want to be my friend anymore. But now I’m convinced that that one friend likes the people who comforted her more and they’ve all grown closer now and I’m just gonna be slowly removed from the group as they’ll all grow to like each other more than me.
Im going to therapy for help with this but idk I guess it’s slow.
@Silentlywishing
Hi,
thank you for sharing your experience. First of all, I don't think your team member will alienate you for not comforting him in time. Frankly speaking, you are thinking too much. Second, you should love yourself before loving others and making friends. Don't put others first because they are just a small landscape on the road of your life, your future should belong to you. In the end, even in a small group, not all people are friendly. Since it is a group formed when it is necessary for interests and cooperation, in my opinion, your relationship with them does not need to be as good as that of your family. After all, you have formed this group for some reasons. Getting into the relationship too much will allow yourself to be unnecessarily angry.
