Love
another big topic on my mind. Why do I fall so easily? I become too obsessed and anxious around them. I’ve told 2 people in my life that I liked them and both have crashed and burned. Ive been told third times the charm but. I lost the last 2 as friends. This one is just too good to lose forever. :(
-bibi
@BibiLove I understand this feeling all too well..... Just like Chet I fall in love too easily...... but it's crazy how things go in life... because what I realised that I need to ask if am I in love with them or am I in love with the idea, I always ask the question and in the case with friends I think its better being friends as hard as it is because at the end it is up to us the people who likes the idea of the relationship that do I want them or do I want them to like me? Am I aware that if I am in this relationship I will need to be there for someone else other than me?
-Valde
@BibiLove
Have you did some self examination about the situation... like the other posters said Is it love or the idea of love..... is it limerance perhaps? Do you want strongly to be in a couple and what ever that entails to you....
When I think of first meeting or dating/ hanging out.............. we all are generally all putting out the best of us .... some may pretend they like same things we do or and not share deeper things or show things/ feelings that may not be what you like/ feel etc.
I think some want each new person they date to be " the one" and happy ever after that seems a bit more of idea of love then real thing. While we can have good thoughts about what could happen we can not rush it .....real lasting love... IMO takes time ... we need to see the whole person and get past the first impression phase......