Just had a breakup
I had a break up 3 days ago... Because he
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Just had a break up
Crista13
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cheated on me. The issue is I had a relationship in the past for 4 years, he cheated on me too. I took therapy and was on medication for more than 6 months. The current guy knows everything. But still he cheated on me too. They both said the same dialogue, they found someone prettier, better than me. Every guy comes to me for my body nothing else. I lost my self confidence at this point. And I'm having anxiety, didn't sleep for the past 48 hours and loss of apetite. I changed my career and left my home town because of these guys... At last i got hurt. I'm a sensitive, emotional and with soft heart person. I easily trust people, over love them, lose my self respect and get hurt at last. It's like a cycle for me. And currently I'm in a place where i don't know their language, barely surving, and can't even make friends because I'm afraid of getting hurt. All alone now! I'm trying to act cool but somewhere it's empty.
@Crista13
It is hard when a person trusts too easily and wants to believe what others tell us. Once you know inside you ... that you are worth so much more this type will be easier to spot and avoid. We all have in one way or another fell for some BS and been hurt maybe in different ways but in the end it is our choice to move on.
What do you want to do ? Can you move back to hometown or change jobs etc? Making choices even small ones just for you is the start ... Yes the journey to real self resilience sometimes feels lonely and empty but in the end is so worth it. We hopefully have a long life and we are not defined by how others treated us.
When I started living for me and not trying to appease others I found many things I see so much clearer now.
@Crista13
Hello. I am sorry to hear about your breakup, and it's even more sad to hear about your being a good person feeling often mistreated.
I believe it is not good when partners see only your body, not seeing your other and, I think, more important qualities, like being sensitive, emotional, kind-hearted, trusting and loving.
Unfortunately, from a stranger's point of view it may look like some kind of a repeating pattern in your life... Just like still someone not echoing your kindness and trust, but leaving you broken hearted and your life a bit turned upside down. Do you have any idea at which point of your life it all started?
Because you have already been good and trusting to other people, what could make you be kind, caring and protecting towards yourself?
How would you like to see yourself as a precious gift that could be given only to someone who could appreciate your personality and values? How could it feel with such a gift being given to you, in a shape of a trustworthy and sensitive partner? 😊
