I am having panic attacks. I'm scared. How can I stop it. How can I be secure. How can I be sure everything about us is going to be all fine.
I have been stressed recently with my relationship and it's mostly because of my overthinking. We're doing long distance right now and it's been hard, I have been overthinking about small stuff or get's frustrated about small stuff like, him forgetting to call etc. and I always open up about my feelings and how I'm hurt, and our main problem now is him showing and being less affectionate towards me because he's really busy with university and his work, and sometimes I feel that he just don't bother making an effort with me, which is I know is not the case and he reassured me about it but I can't help but overthink. We had the peak talk just the other day, cause I really wanted to stop the negative stuff that I was feeling and to like try to completely stuff about me pointing out about it even though we already had muktiple talks. At the end of the conversation we told each other how we still love each other very much and he still sees the future with me and doesn't want to lose me and talked about the improvements we should do, "but" from now on he would like to see in the following weeks if we can work it out, and now I am so scared and I've been feeling anxious about how he said "but" because he hasn't done it before he would always say he's sure of me and we would be together and he would not let go, but now there is a "but". He said he's still sure of me now and the "but we will see if it will work out" doesn't mean he's not. I just don't know anymore I've been feeling so miserable today and crying from time to time because I'm scared and anxious
@Mokuro
It is fine to fear what can happen, but being in that fear for long and losing yourself to stay in the present can cost you more loss. Whenever you fear the future, just think that can we really change or predict what can happen. Rather than trying to be afraid of the consequences of the future, it is better to live in the moment and be happy. Know that this too shall pass soon, and always hope for the best. Things do change their course. And for panic attacks, you can get help if you wish t,o and other ways, like meditation, which can help lower the risk of panic attacks.
@Mokuro - I'm so sorry you are feeling this way. It sounds like this situation with your relationship is really weighing on you, and it is completely understandable that you would feel anxious and scared, especially with the added stress of long distance.
Overthinking and worry can feel overwhelming, especially when you are trying to navigate big emotions and expectations. It is really brave of you to open up about your feelings, even if it is difficult, and it is clear that you care deeply about this relationship. It is okay to feel vulnerable and worried, it does not mean you don't love or trust your partner.
If you'd like, I'm here to listen and help you work through these feelings, or if there is something specific you think might help, we can talk about that too. You are not alone in this.