Feeling betrayed still
Hi all. I am having anxiety for a different reason that I don’t want to get into, but I feel like if I can chip away at the edges it will help with the whole. Several years ago when I was at work, I had clients say bizarre or threatening things to me. I talked to the therapist about it and one therapist told me she didn’t think that really happened and I can’t even remember what the other therapist said - just glazed over it though. I think I just want someone to validate that it happened and that it should not have. Thoughts? Why would people do that and do I just have to put up with that type of bologna? Does this happen to everyone?
@enthusiasticPapaya8329
So if someone validated your experience you think that will help you move forward in chipping away towards the other item causing you anxiety? do you feel it was connected or just another item that you have experienced?
I think a few times i had therapy they seemed more focused on things i did not see as an issue and the items that seemed more relevant to me were barely covered.
You are the customer in therapy and you should be able to talk about what you want to. Did you at least ask why the person either did not believe it happened or glossed over it? That maybe more enlightening to you.
How would you feel if a therapist told you that was a bad thing but they did not think that was as important to your issues and you feel it is?
Hi ToughTiger, thank you for your kind reply. You had a lot of questions for me to think about. Thank you for such consideration of my post.
I do feel that validation would help me process the emotions I felt and it would give me support, which should help my overall anxiety. I have sort of generalized anxiety: some I think is a side effect of an anti psych med I’m on, some is related to work, and some may be part of mild paranoia I have relating to my mental condition. So any relief should help.
It sounds like your experience in therapy wasn’t what you expected. I have had a lot of therapy- they have things they have to rule out and ground to cover that does take time away from what you think is relevant sometimes. I think my therapist has covered all that ground by now though and has asked me what I want to talk about recently, so I could probably bring up the issue again. Thank you for the prompting and suggestions re: asking for reasons why the therapist responded the way she did.
Hmm, as for how I would feel about a suggestion that it is not as important to my current issues as I think, well, I guess I’d feel dismissed somehow. But, maybe I just need to give the issue to God and move forward. Maybe she did say that would be bad, but maybe I had misunderstood.
Thank you for your help. I feel I have processed this better. I’m believe Jesus would understand. Thank you for listening.
