Constant work anxiety and motherhood
Hi all, I'm hoping by writing this I will start to calm down. I am.a single mum who works full time. The stress at my work has been chronic lately. My boss has been away for a planned surgery. She has only supported one person during this 6 week period and left almost all of her reporting work to me without any reasonable handover. I am asked for information almost all day that is part of her job. She does not return phone calls or emails. She only occasionally emails me to request complex information in unreasonable time frames. I have crossed a line where I'm feeling anxious almost all day. I'm shaking a lot, but managing to just keep it together. I've had to pull over while driving because of the rising panic. Im practising CBT, and my doctor has said I should take the week off, but I don't want to let the team down. I feel.stuck and scared and I desperately want to.quit and find something else, but I need to pay the rent and support my daughter. Sometimes, I think she knows that. Any suggestions about small steps I could take to balance things even a little would be greatly appreciated. ♡
@JenMicca
Is she just your immediate boss or a supervisor with other people she reports to?
I would clearly note in emails ( to others if she has supervisors) that the hand off was less then optimal and you feel she has held information back that is making fill in for her time off very difficult. this would be something that might happen if leave was sudden and unexpected but otherwise was just poor planning on her part.
Some workers i find rely too much on stuff they may know but has not made it available to others, as she assumes everyone else has this information memorized or something.
Some do this on purpose to make it seem as if they are invaluable ... they do not want a leave for any reason to go smooth for fear of being replaced or someone doing it better. The more people NEED to reach out they feel shows how important they are. If this was the case it is not on you... but her for poor leadership.
