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Schlumpi October 8th, 2023

So I have a really bad roommate who's in her late 30s and I'm in my early 20s living with 2 other people who are in there 20s as well. I moved her at the beginning of the year and everything was ok, but over the past 4 months this lady started becoming unbearable. I have mentioned to her that I have ADD and struggle to remember things or forget things sometimes and that if it happens she should remind me nicely and I'll do whatever I forgot. Over the last 3 months she started getting mad at me for forgetting to hang my clean laundry if my drying rack, I hung it off .but then she started putting sticky notes in my laundry at day 2 demanding I hang it off even if my laundry wasn't dry.

Example 2. I wasn't home for 3 days and she yelled at me that the trash attracted maggots and I didn't bring it out. Told her nobody was home to do so. 3. I was apparently not cleaning correctly bc the mop wasn't wet after shes come home to check if I mopped. Told her I did and she got mad saying the mop was dry (it was 32° so it was going to be dry in a few hours)

4. She moved something in the bathroom and me and my roommates didn't touch or ask why it was there so she yelled at us for not asking about it or putting it back

5. Left a pan out 1 evening so it would be easier to clean. She came out yelling at my roommate loudly and saying were disrespectful to her etc and after my roommate refused to engage in her yelling she stormed off slamming the door


I don't feel like this is my safe space anymore because we get yelled at constantly, our apartment is very clean in general but it seems like no matter what we do she finds something else to yell at us about


I'm thinking about moving back to my parents place because it seems to get worse each week and I just don't know what to do anymore

I'm anxious to come back to a place I pay rent for and getting scolded by someone who could be my mom


What do I do? Am I disrespectful?

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toughTiger6481 October 8th, 2023

@Schlumpi

You pay rent and she is a roommate and a equal NOT your boss or your parent....   this is not OK ...

either move back home if you can or stand up for yourself especially since others are involved if she is only picking on you?       it is because she is a control freak and knows you will take the abuse...? 

if you like where you live and do not want to move to get away from her stand your ground... 

if it is only you ask her what her problem is ... and yes it is her issues NOT yours. 

if it is all roommates ask her to pay all rent since she seems to think she is in control and you are some how subservient to her.  


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Schlumpi OP October 8th, 2023

I'm going to have a talk with her and my other roommate on Tuesday because nobody likes living here anymore and I'll try telling her that her behavior makes everyone uncomfortable

I'm going to move back home as a last resort


And thanks for validating my feelings

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