“ADHD wont effect you you dont need help” 🙄🙄🙄
I have ADHD. Maybe not the worst, but I definitely have it and its making life really difficult. Its hard to follow conversations, I keep not noticing that someone is talking to me, school is a NIGHTMARE, I keep becoming impulsive and making bad decisions, and sometimes I’ll start getting so filled with energy that I just cant control it and everyone else thinks theres something wrong with me (which there is).
I finally, finally gathered up the courage to talk to my mom about but she said “ADHD isnt really a problem for you. And even if you were to get diagnosed, I’m not buying you meds or therepy, so theres no point.”
I am so mad right now.
@ThatChristLover Ohhhh my, I am so sorry to hear that. I empathize with you. I am so sorry to hear that you are finding school and homelife difficult because of the way your ADHD presents itself. I want to let you know that I am PROUD of you for mustering the courage up to actually talk to someone about how you feel. That must have been no easy talk but you did it and you should be proud of yourself. It is unfortunate that your parent has shrugged it off like it is no big deal. It is affecting your life and that is alarming. I am so sorry to hear you feel like you have no support. I want you to know that I am really glad you are here. 7cups is a mental health platform where members can chat with listeners that can offer support. Mind you listeners are not doctors, they cannot give you advice, etc but they are excellent to chat with if you need someone to be there for you. If you ever want to chat with a listener about your ADHD or other things bothering you, you can browse for an available one here. :) I also wanted to let you know that your feelings, no matter how you may feel, are valid and there are people who can support you and accept you. We as listeners do not judge. I really hope you find the support you need and that life gets easier. Take care. <3
@ThatChristLover
I am sorry to hear your mom said that .... if it is causing you issues in school and things but she is not able to see the items herself ... she might think it is not a problem.
Sometimes we do not see items in people we are close to....... maybe we have adapted to get their attention or work with their impulsiveness in different ways..... some parents also are very leery when talking of meds and doctors for various reasons ... perhaps money... perhaps fear of being judged in not seeking help sooner etc.....
I know you are mad and want answers ...... is it something you can show her how it is effecting you or discuss further?
My Mom is just. Uggh. Shes convinced that meds are bad. Her main concern is side effects which i understand but shes not even trying to find a good one without side effects. And she’s absolutely not into therapy bc it “wont help” and i “dont need it” which is ridiculous bc how should she know??
Maybe I can keep pushing her to let me get a professional diagnosis, and once she does that might open the door to things that could help
@ThatChristLover
Meds for various things often one major side effect is could could suicidal thoughts and actions in young or teens...... Major scary for a parent ....... therapy honestly is a hit and miss some helps a great deal if you find a good fit for therapists and some IMO do not help....
Do you really know if she has any reasons to think that? ....maybe based on someone or even herself before you that therapy did not help........
pushing the issue is different then really opening up and discussing it.
You’re right. I just had a mental breakdown earlier and to not be able to access that help makes me feel helpless.
oh jeez i did not know that meds could cause suicidal thoughts. Definitely dont need no more of those…
she doesnt care if it helps or not it just costs money and she doesnt want to spend any money even tho she can
your roght, i do need to open up, but i already have and she dont wanna hear it.