Scared Sex Addict

@stacy46

Want to talk about it?

@stacy46 Thank you for reaching out for help and welcome to the community. We are here for you <3

While I don't personally struggle with a sex addiction, I wanted to pass on a couple of suggestions that you might find helpful. Have you ever considered going to a peer support group? While they're not professional by any means, they are a good resource and many are attended people with a number of years of recovery under their belts who can offer you guidance. Most of the groups are free to attend so that may help by eliminating the financial barrier you're facing. There are several 12 step groups and a few online groups. There's a section in this post with more details.

I know exactly what you mean, actually. I needed help but I couldn't (still can't, haha, really) afford professionals.

What I found was a 12 Step program. Because, yah sure, it's free, but it's people who specifically and exactly through their own experience and choices know what I am going through. They have literally been where I've been.

I love the program, because it's a specific program of recovery that's been built for me, a sexaholic. It also provided a support group of people who are willing to give back to a world from which they've taken so much (from which I've taken, trying to consume my lust on others).

That's what I've found. One of the things they say there, "it works if you work it" really is true. I mean, it does work, but it only works when I'm willing to give it everything, to do whatever it takes, if I'm honest with myself and I truly want to change.

I'd be glad to talk more about this or just listen to other options you're trying.

I actually feel like I can relate. I was able to get a few sessions in due to an employee assistance program, but mostly therapy is not covered by insurance, let alone having to try and pay for it myself.

I would love to do more therapy, because I felt it was a place of healing and even in the few brief sessions, I think we were uncovering some of the issues that drive me to seek comfort or connection (all lies) through sexual acting out.

What other avenues have you found that help?

@stacy46

Yeah. I can relate. I have great months where I dive into my hobbies and really enjoy just simple stuff, and then days or weeks when I just "have to have it" for an escape. The error for me seems to be letting go of insecurities and fears.