I need help

@littleMythicalBird Hi there, welcome to the community! I am so proud that you have reached out for support, and I admire your eagerness to get control of your life. You can check out Nofap, suggested by one of our lovely group mods VinylFly.

I can't really give advice as I am not aware of your full circumstances. However, we are here for you, and please feel free to reach out to give updates or if you just need support. If you ever wish to talk to someone, you can reach out to the listeners here.Given that you are reaching out here, you are already making progress! Best wishes!

I can really relate to how unmanageable life gets when an addiction is running the course and making all my decisions.

I had caring people try to help me, but all their efforts meant nothing until I myself was in a place where I truly believed and I needed help and I was the one who went out and looked for it.

Things I did included joining a 12 Step group (one which I actually still attend today, on a weekly basis, even more than 3 years later), as well as seeking professional assistance from a therapist.

I couldn't just see any therapist; I needed one who was CSAT (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist), familiar with the Patrick Carnes work and system. A lot of that rolls around emotional regulation as a means to cope and to return to a state of mindfulness (which really means being able to choose, rather than the addiction already completing the choice).

I found that I needed some education (or knowledge, if you will) so I could better understand/know what it is that I am facing.

The resource I found the most helpful was a website called rowboatandmarbles.

@littleMythicalBird

Hi, I am really sorry you are dealing with this.. I am too..but the good news is that I actually think accepting the problem and deciding to face it head on is probably the hardest step.. which you have clearly take - so CONGRATULATIONS, draw some strength from that !

I don't have answers.. I wish I did, because I need them too.

I did find this site interesting and helpful though. It explains the impact on the brain, and importantly how the brain will recalibrate once you stop overdosing it with dopamine. Link: https://www.bustle.com/articles/153055-heres-what-porn-addiction-does-to-your-brain-and-how-to-recover

Hope it helps.. Dan.