Addiction to doing porn
So I joined a couple cam sites and started creating my own porn. It was so exhilarating and thrilling. However, I am married and my husband would probably divorce me if he knew. I’m addicted to doing it, but for my marriage, I need to stop. I started doing it for the money, however, I find myself more interested in the compliments and the way it makes me feel. Any help or advice?
you probably just enjoy the validation, i've never been in a situation like this bc i'm a minor, but i can be a tad bit hyper sexual bc of my trauma and need for validation growing up. maybe u have a similar problem like me? honestly i think this could be something u can slowly fix, by focusing on yourself. maybe tell ur husband that u want more compliments, and that u feel like he isn't appreciating ur looks. but be honest with him. some people take sex work as cheating, but in this case, u let others sexualize and objectify u. as long as it isn't flirting then u should be fine, but always respect ur husband's boundaries and comforts. if it doesn't work out, then maybe u should leave and continue to keep working on cam sites but i think it's much more healthier to focus on urself. do whatever u feel is best for the both of u and ur husband
Did this work for you? I have a friend going through something similar and idk how to talk to her about it
I think you are missing validation and complements in your marriage, since you want to save your marriage i suggest talk to your husband and tell him how you feel, that you need to be complemented, give you a good morning text, send you stuff during the day, to appreciate you more...that happened in every marriage sometimes we just stop but we tend to go back again to do what we do when we were dating, we are kinda idiots about that so you need to talk to your husband about your need, and it is hard for us to understand hints
I have done something similar on snap chat where I would send people nudes or videos of myself doing it. The thought of getting off knowing someone is watching is a huge turn on plus the validation that you can make someone else finish as well. I agree with the other comments that a huge part is the validation and possibly feeling lonely/underappreciated. I found talking with people who are real or even the listeners here on this platform can help bridge that misconnect. It is important to fill that emptiness of validation with a different kind, a validation that comes from a place of true love. This I believe is something your husband can work through with you. I mean the whole reason you guys got married was because you love each other more than just sexual and physical. There are other things like quirks, cute habits, strong personality that made him fall head over heels for you and you for him. This true love (not lustful love) will help you through this situation.