please nedd help and support
Hi I am a mom of a 22 year old. I love her so much but I am afraid. she has started drinking. she only does a certain amount, but now does it every day. and she really doesn't want to talk with me about it. she does tell me that in the evening when she drinks, that is her peaceful and happy time, and it helps her to sleep. she does have anxiety, panic attacks and some depression. I am almost sure she drinks to mask sadness or anxiety. she doesn't feel good about herself alot, and according to her, this helps her. but lately it's all she thinks about. the rest of the day she is somewhat normal, but it hoovers over both of us I think, and it has me very depressed. I barely function anymore. It is very hard to not show my sadness because I know I have to try to help and support her. But she has got to stop this and I am paralyzed as to how to help her. I have nobody to help me and I just want to cry all the time, it's hard to hold it all in, but I am so far. Can anyone please help me...I am soooo alone thnx
sounds tough i msorry
@raspberryMelon6325
Being a supportive parent expresses love and care. It sounds like you want to know how you can support your 22-year-old.
"You cannot give away what you don't have"
To be there for another, first, be there for yourself. There are many ways you can learn about drinking habits and how to intervene. In general, when a person is not ready - it is impossible to make the person ready. Instead, learn and understand how to care for your health and get support from another person with similar experiences.
Stronger Together!
- Co-Dependents Anonymous: 7 This group focuses on correcting maladaptive patterns in family systems and creating positive, healthy relationships.
- Al-Anon Family Groups: 8 This is a support group for friends and family members of problem drinkers. Members can share their personal stories about addiction and how it has affected them.
- SMART Recovery Family and Friends: 13 This science-based alternative to fellowship programs provides you with the resources you need to help a loved one.
- Family therapy: In family therapy, a therapist will help to strengthen relationships within the family by improving communication and resolving conflicts.
Other strategies, such as meditation or yoga, can help you to relax and deal with any anxieties related to your family member’s alcoholism.
Whatever you choose, make sure you take time to do something you enjoy or to relax.
[Excerpt from: https://www.recovery.org/alcohol-addiction/family-member/]
Hope this is helpful.
MindRoots
Heyy Can I ask what happens when she drinks
