Spouse of alcoholic

@peaches8021 Hello peaches, welcome to the community. We are happy to have you here with us, and I am so sorry to hear about what's been going on with you and your spouse. How are you coping? My mom also struggled with handling my dad's nicotine addiction for years, so I totally understand where you are coming from. If you ever need to talk to someone, the listeners are here for you. Also, if you have not already, feel free to check out the relationship and friendship support subcommunity for further support and resources here.

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Hi Peaches. You are not alone. I am in the same situation and looking for continued support other ways. Difference of my situation is that he works, however, he is off work and has been drinking everyday since, so a week now, with verbal and emotional abuse. I handle all the home stuff. He makes excuses on not to help, mainly thinks I am obligated to do it all for him. Yet, tells me I do nothing. I'm depressed and exhausted of living with this bc it's toxic, negative, and we cannot get passed the past of things. He lives in the past. He was sober for 54 days but then went into relapse bc vacation and family visiting. His family is also now seeing he gets annoying like taking care of another child with their children. It's constant degrading from my spouse. I have understood he has an illness, but his illness is draining me. I wish and hope you are doing well. It is super tough to be on the other side of addiction.

Hi, I am in a similar situation and don’t know what to do. My husband of 20 years drinks every night he is home from work about 4 nights a week. Our kids and I know we can’t even talk to him bc he blows up over nothing. So he sits alone and drinks and goes to bed alone. He is like a different person in the morning Nd afternoon. I have asked him to get help and he will not. He has told me he no longer loves me. And wants a divorce after our kid’s have graduated high school. I don’t understand why wait. I still love him even though we have no relationship and he treats me terrible. I think I keep hoping it is the alcohol and he will change but he has no desire to. I told him 2 days ago that I was not going to live this way any longer and it wasn’t fair to me and our kids. He left and our kids our relieved he is gone bc everyone lives on pins and needles scared of him. But I still don’t know what to do. Whether to file for divorce or wait. I keep thinking he will call and say he wants to change.