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My Boyfriend ruining himself

StarrrGirl20 February 21st, 2021

Hey guys, so my boy is an addict. Smoking. Weed and cigarettes all day long. A year ago he had heptic enceplopathy (i don't think i spelled that right) which was caused by several drugs that he used, including xnax. He was clean after that for a month or two until he started smoking cigarettes. And then he started smoking weed again. A week ago his dentist told him how they have to kill his gum because of some cavity or something that was caused by smoking. He is ruining himself. And i don't know what i can do to stop him. When i try to talk to him about it he says that he can do it secretly without telling me too. But he isn't doing that. What am i supposed to do? He is falling behind in His studies and everything. I don't want to lose him. But the way he is spending his life makes me feel like someday i will lose him.

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February 22nd, 2021

I am sorry to hear that. Addiction is a very destructive thing which I also struggle with. He and you are not alone. There are three main things that I can think of that will help him out of his addiction. The first thing to do is to wake him up to the reality of the dangers of what he is doing, and to expose him to someone who has payed the consequences of smoking. The second thing that must be done is to make him quit for a higher reason other than for his health. For example, in my addiction to pornography, I have been seeking Christ and building my faith. I lean on, and communicate with Christ to relieve my urges. Our bodies are our temples, and we must learn why and how we should respect them. The final thing to do is to examine his past with him, and try to figure out why he started smoking. Hopefully these steps will lead him to want to quit, and will lead him to freedom and recovery. I hope this was helpful, and I pray that he gets better, and that you have peace of mind some day soon.

LeoFriend1994 February 22nd, 2021

My boyfriend is also ruining himself. We’ve been together 8yrs and have 2 kids together but he is throwing his life away to alcoholism. He is great during the week but the weekends come and he goes on a binger. I stay home with the kids all weekend long while he stays out and doesn’t come home.. I have tried to tell him to get therapy and he just denies to get it. I am also lost as to what to do

StarrrGirl20 OP March 27th, 2021

He started smoking and drugs and all because of me. Years ago he confessed his love for me, we were friends at that time. And after i said no. He well.. Developed self destructive habits of this sort. His parents don't have a healthy relationship with each other. They had troubles too. Now they are better. I am with him. I love him. But he is addicted.

pinkMap4438 May 21st, 2021

Hello, Have you two talked about some counseling? Have you told him how you feel? Does he feel like he have a problem?