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I have a daughter, she is 22. she has had anxiety and panic disorder and some depression. she smokes weed to help that. I don't love that but it helps her feel normal. But lately she has also started drinking and smoking cigarettes. she only drinks right before bedtime, she says it helps her go to sleep. She drinks the same amount everynight. She started smoking cigarettes because she has been addicted to nicotine for a while 1st she vaped, she stopped that because she got sick, so she changed to chewing nicotine gum, and now cigarettes. she has an addictive personality. but I am petrified that this will get worse. like she will want more when a few drinks don't work anymore. and she is depressed, but I think mainly because she needs a job and her anxiety and panic makes it really hard to find a job she can do successfully. I can't do anything about the drinking because she is 22 and an adult. she is gonna do what she wants to do. I don't know what to do to lift her spirit and bring her out of this saddness and get her to not drink and to stop smoking... I feel lost and nausous and cry alot now....... she only wants to feel normal... She is a sweet loving young woman, but this changes her a bit, mainly out of saddness and frustration I think. Any words of encouragement or advice will be appreciated.
I would try to discuss this with your daughter as calmly and politely as possible. Tell her that you are concerned about her habits, you care about her, and that you want what is best for her. Quitting smoking/drinking may be a process, as she may not be able to stop altogether right away. I would try to help her out of it. I would also suggest helping your daughter get a therapist. A therapist may help with mental health and addiction. You could also talk with your daughter and be a listening ear to her. I'll pray for you and your daughter. I understand that she needs some help. I hope things get better for you. God bless you.
@rationalPlum4001 Thanks so much for your helpful advice. I am doing what you suggest, without argument, just letting her know I am here for her. she does have a therapist and is thinking about going to see her. she did say today she knew she had to quit...... hopefully she will be able to before it it takes its toll. this is a process, I just want my happy daughter back, thanks also for your prayers!
No problem, anytime.