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Tiny Steps, Round 2: Digital Wellbeing (Master post)

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...See more Hi everyone! Welcome to Round 2 of Tiny Steps, a new initiative designed to help you take small, meaningful actions toward personal growth. Each round will focus on a new theme, and we’ll provide a simple task in each of our academy sub-communities. The tiny step series has no deadline, these steps will be available for you to complete, and redo as per your liking. Here's how to benefit: * Follow along with the weekly master posts * Revisit old steps whenever you like. Here is the post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/academy/FunCorner_2196/TinyStepsAllSteps_345621/] that holds all the steps! So bookmark it and check back in for a refresher whenever you like. Now lets take a look at this week's theme! This week's theme is Digital wellbeing. Here are the posts! * Delete one social media app from your phone for the rest of the day. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/academy/FunCorner_2196/TinyStepsRound2Deleteonesocialmediaappfromyourphonefortherestoftheday_345610/] * Set a timer to remind you to take a screen break [https://www.7cups.com/forum/interns/IceBreakersFunChallengesGamesQuizzes_1180/TinyStepsRound2Setatimertoremindyoutotakeascreenbreak_345611/] (Listener Only) * Unfollow accounts that disturb your peace. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/content/FunContent_2266/TinyStepsRound2Unfollowaccountsthatdisturbyourpeace_345612/] * Schedule time for PMs and emails [https://www.7cups.com/forum/ldp/IcebreakersandWelcomingArea_2177/TinyStepsRound2ScheduletimeforPMsandemails_345617/] * Reflect on how you feel after using social media. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/qlp/IcebreakersandWelcomingArea_2216/TinyStepsRound2Reflectonhowyoufeelafterusingsocialmedia_345619/] (Listener Only) 📩 Are you the next host for Tiny Steps? Interested in helping people work towards personal growth? PM me if you are interested and can commit to a consistent posting schedule. 📢 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSegAjS2hOHVN6XpplmuMvU9pmhXAw2KzFqRc1SWFNveM1yekA/viewform] Join the tag list to be informed of a new round! [https://forms.gle/LLf9wptNCsRxvskp6] ------------------------- 📌This post is brought to you by the 7 Cups Academy Team. [https://www.7cups.com/academy/]

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Conquering Worry: Stop Sweating the Small Stuff & Setting Worry Limits

Anxiety Support / by Hope

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...See more Hi everyone! I hope you are well. This week in our Conquering Worry series, we are covering a few topics, they all fit the same theme and help us not sweat the small stuff. According to Carnegie, concern is a focused, proactive thought process aimed at solving a problem or addressing an issue. It motivates us to take action and improve the situation. Worry, on the other hand, is a passive, often repetitive state of distress that consumes our energy without leading to productive results. While concern leads to action and solutions, worry drains us mentally and emotionally without resolving anything. Carnegie emphasizes the importance of recognizing the difference and choosing concern over worry to maintain mental well-being. The techniques shared here focus on reducing worry by teaching us how to manage and reframe concerns, allowing us to stay focused and proactive without being overwhelmed. By practicing these methods, we can remain concerned about what matters while letting go of unnecessary worry. How to Avoid Trifles and Focus on What Matters Many of us worry endlessly over small things, the tone of an email, an awkward interaction, or a tiny flaw in our work. He tells the story of a man who let a rude comment ruin his evening. The next morning, he realized how absurd it was to let such a minor event take over his thoughts. 🔹 Are you giving too much importance to something that won’t matter in a week or a year? 🔹 Is this worry doing anything to improve your life? Reframing Small Annoyances Carnegie shares how General Dean, a prisoner of war in Korea, refused to be broken by minor irritations. He accepted what he couldn’t control, conserving his energy for what truly mattered his survival. His circumstances were far more challenging than what most of us are facing but the overall lessons apply. Here is how we too can avoid getting worked up over small challenges. The lesson? Shift your focus. * Instead of dwelling on what went wrong, ask, "What can I learn from this?" * Instead of resenting a minor inconvenience, ask, "Does this really deserve my peace of mind?" * Instead of worrying over a single mistake, remind yourself: "In a year, this will be forgotten." One particular example that stood out to me in relevance to this chapter is about changing perspective/reframing inconvenience. Carnegie shares a story of a woman who found herself stuck at a traffic light. Initially frustrated by the wait, she realized that getting upset wasn’t going to change anything. The light would turn green when it did, and her anger only added to her stress. She decided to shift her focus. Instead of stewing over the delay, she chose to use the time to relax and reflect, turning what could have been a moment of irritation into an opportunity for peace. One simple way you can apply this: Whenever you are met with inconvenience, practice reframing it and reusing it to your advantage. Examples: * Red light: Let's take this time to practice slow breathing/grounding * Someone is late to a meeting: I can go over these notes that I am not very familiar with * Someone canceled on you: Wonderful, I get to clean my room now * Someone was upset at you: Inconvenient but I have to learn to handle these situations with grace, now I can practice X. Setting Limits on Worry: Stop-Loss Orders and Letting Go One of the most effective strategies for managing worry is the idea of a "stop-loss order", a concept borrowed from the stock market. In the stock market, a stop-loss order is used to sell a stock once its value drops to a predetermined level, limiting the financial loss. Carnegie applies this same concept to worry, suggesting that we set our own mental "stop-loss orders" to limit the amount of time we spend worrying about something. A stop-loss order on worry involves setting a mental limit on how much time and energy you’ll dedicate to a particular worry or problem. Once you’ve reached that limit, you decide to let go and move on, regardless of the situation’s outcome. It’s an exercise in self-discipline, recognizing when worry is no longer productive and deciding to stop. Carnegie shares the story of a man who lost money in the stock market, and how he applied this very concept to his emotional response. The man realized he could set a "worry limit", once he reached his personal threshold for feeling upset or concerned, he would move forward and stop dwelling on the situation. The key here is deciding in advance how much time you are willing to devote to worrying about an issue and then cutting it off when that time is up. Carnegie emphasizes that this approach is not about ignoring the problem or avoiding necessary action. Rather, it’s about not allowing worry to take over your life. Once you've set a time limit for yourself or done what you can, it’s important to shift your focus back to other, more productive things. This concept reminds me of the technique ‘Scheduling worry time’, a popular method in in the realm of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and anxiety management. The method encourages individuals to set aside specific, controlled periods of time to reflect on their concerns, rather than letting worry interfere throughout the day. So essentially what we are doing is: * Delaying worry which often reduces its intensity or the anxiety that accompanies it * Containing the worry to a specific time slot rather than it ruining your whole day * Training yourself not to worry all the time Some quotes that came to my mind when I was working on this part of the post: * "If you see ten troubles coming down the road, you can be sure that nine will run into the ditch before they reach you." — Calvin Coolidge * It is so for it can't be otherwise Here is how it looks in action This is based on broader teachings of the book and general techniques people have found helpful. * Schedule worry time: Select an appropriate amount of time to worry about your problem. Set a timer and an alarm for it. When time comes, think about your problems, ideally using the techniques we covered in A Practical Approach to Managing Worry. Once the time is over, that is it for the day, close your doc/notebook and move on. You can continue where you left off next day. * Take action: Leave the worry time with one actionable item that you aim to accomplish. It can be as simple as praying on it, or it can be a physical action. For example, if you are worried about your health deteriorating due to a sedentary lifestyle, you can decide on doing a 30 minute walk before your next worry session. Tasks of the week Part 1: Identify a recurring minor inconvenience (e.g., traffic delay, canceled appointment, work mistake) and practice reframing it positively. Example: You may decide to spend only 10 minutes thinking about a particular concern. Once the time is up, move on and focus on something more productive. Part 2: Schedule Worry Time, If you have a problem weighing on you that you keep worrying about, schedule an appropriate amount of time (typically 15-30 minutes) to worry about it. Use the approaches covered here during that time Set an alarm so you don’t miss the time and hold yourself accountable to it. Part 3: Take action, think about something you are worrying about, take one action towards resolving that worry, no matter how small. Share your experience with us after completing all three. ------------------------- This post is part of the Conquering Worry series, you can find all posts of the series here. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/community/CommunitySpace_2590/MasterpostConqueringWorryOngoingSeriesCertificateAvailable_344231/]

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