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5 minutes ago

Do you experience boredom?

7 Cups Online Therapy / by amiablePeace77

10 minutes ago

...See more Do you feel that the weather has an impact on how bored you feel? Which season makes you feel the best? Taglist Updated 1/27/25 @3timesLeo @4Jasmine @Admirablerainbow2825 @adventureawaits777 @adventurousBranch3786 @AlexMbale @allen99 @allnaturalWillow7138 @alysianna @ambitiousGlobe3422 @ambitioushope1234 @ambitiousHickory9113 @amiablePeace77 @Ashy123 @Astralboy @augustine1304 @balderasdavid799 @BeamsOfHope00 @Beepyy @bence2 @bestThinker1986 @BipolarBear1983 @BlackyDragon @blissedNblessed @bluelemon6419 @bobw @bouncyFireworks3811 @blueAcai236 @BPDBadee @Brittanny17 @brightOcean1599 @candybubblegumsprinkles @calmcoral @CaringSub @CatHanderOutNoah @Catunion @charmaeausty @charliebee1121 @ComfortablePeace2121 @courageouspanda2006 @courageousPomegranate766 @courteousKite6821 @creativeCar5713 @creatingHealthyOutcome @crimsonCoconut1711 @crimsonPapaya @crystalclearnow @cyanVase4070 @CyclingThroughLife @daydreammemories @deborahdebbie @dlynn88911221 @Desmynn6789 @DkIfINeedHelpOrSleep @dysfunctionjunction1224 @Echoheart7236 @EllyMerelyn @emotionalpal710 @emotionalPenguin4374 @empathicPresence9091 @EmpoweringSam @endure777 @energeticThinker6924 @enthusiasticAcai2032 @enthusiasticBeach8170 @enthusiasticTortoise6681 @exuberantStrawberries9544 @FaithMagic @fearlessCup8704 @FleurdeNeige @FlowerEV777 @FracturedPurple @Fradiga @fruityPond7887 @Genlistener @geribear @Gettingbettertoday @Ghasaq997 @GlitteryHearts @glowingPresence86 @energeticThinker6924@GoldenNest2727 @GothamRam @gregariousField7151 @GreyorFelix @gva1audi @happyness @hardworkingBeechwood6063 @heartstopper13 @helloPineapple2451 @helpfulDime0407 @Henry2000 @Hereforyouall144 @hopefaith2011 @imaginativepear6493 @ingeniousLove9924 @intuitivepixie1331 @Itzcharlotteg @JanMad87 @Jordan1872 @k87 @Kenn13chan @kindcircle3085 @kateeew @Kaydeee @kindRiver6 @kohandlen @Kristian1 @kristynsmama @Lauren63 @Leahm9703 @LillyPad12345 @LisaMeighanMBPsS @lostwithouther97 @lovelycoacoa @magneticDreamer6447 @mariah2009 @Marita7391 @meaningfulSilence @meeeeee @meowcat1216 @mia4819 @Mich765 @mindtalk @miraculousTouch2949 @miresama @modestTangerine2193 @MoonMomm @MoreThanJustMe @Mscooper2789 @myloveee3 @mytwistedsoul @navyAcres6073 @nessa104 @NotAllHere713 @oa4me @Oceansky93 @OneErased @onkia122 @orangypie @pamharley003 @paperBird3348 @patientwater @peacefulRainbow05 @peachyOctopus9691 @PhilosophicalModel @PiecesOfWhoeverIWas @pinkpolkadots @PinkTriangle133 @pioneeringHuman7775 @politeGrapefruit179 @pompom @PurpleHearts7 @purpletree4652 @Pvoigt @Qoqnus @QueerChaos259 @rachelkb123 @raddogme @Rainboho @Randumuser1 @redirecting @reguna reservedOwl6476@fighton @reservedPark4029 @resilience2025 @RMaunil @Rod88 @RogueOne1983 @sandie @Scarletpear1945 @ShapeshiftSystem @SilverSeastar @SleepingFoxAkari @slothgurl17 @SnaryPoppins07 @softParadise1540 @soulsings @SparklyFly @sorrowedbunny1256 @SpongeBob2021 @Squidward @StarryCandy6123 @stephbrent @SugareeIsMe091121 @summerkay2024 @tallWalker4850 @ThadSterling @theroadisbright @thesoda @thoughtsbubbleexpress @ThoughtfulMomma @tifecandy @tinywhisper11 @tiredbubble00 @tjitalia @toughLand5970 @txrmentedSxul @UniversalSmile @warmheart0890 @WentToBruv @waves @WorriedMagpie @WorkingitThrough2 @YellowTiger5674 @yzzil @zeffa @Zeraphim @Zsazsa524 Kindly click here and fill out this short form to add or remove your names from the taglist Taglist [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSeql8unT87Ka1cN7jZZ8fk2QR4MRu8RZSytPu23e4cziOuEaQ/viewform?vc=0&c=0&w=1&flr=0] Image by R. Woeger on Unsplash

Welcome to February : A Month of Self-Love and Emotional Well-Being 💐💗

Depression Support / by Angelanj

12 minutes ago

...See more Welcome to February, Everyone! We’re so glad to have both new and returning members here with us this month. Whether you're just starting your journey or coming back after some time, know that you're not alone — we’re here to support each other. 💗🫂 February is often recognized as the "love month," with Valentine’s Day reminding us of romantic relationships, friendships, and connections. But it’s also a time to remember that love starts with ourselves. For many, this month can bring feelings of loneliness or emotional strain, but let’s not forget that self-love and emotional health are just as important. This is a time to honor your own well-being, take small steps to nurture yourself, and remind yourself that you are worthy of care and kindness! Quote of the Month: "Love yourself first, and everything else falls into line." – Lucille Ball 🌷 This month, let’s embrace the fact that we’re all a work in progress, and that’s perfectly okay. Every small step counts, and growth is a journey. 🌸💓 February Highlight: Emotional Health Week - (February 19-23) -This week, we’re focusing on understanding and prioritizing emotional health. Emotional Health Week is a time to raise awareness about the importance of mental well-being and share strategies for managing stress, emotions, and maintaining balance in life. It’s a chance to take stock of how we're feeling and learn new ways to improve our emotional resilience. Stay tuned for tips, resources, and discussions throughout the week! 💞. Fun Facts About Emotional Health Week: * Emotional Health Week was created to help reduce the stigma around mental health challenges and encourage open conversations about emotional well-being. * Studies show that focusing on emotional health can improve not only mental but also physical health — stress management and positive emotional habits can lower blood pressure and improve sleep quality. * It’s not just about managing negative emotions; Emotional Health Week highlights the importance of cultivating positive emotions, like gratitude and joy, which have been linked to better overall well-being. Prompts for February: * What’s one small thing you’ve done recently to take care of your emotional health? Whether it’s journaling, taking a mindful break, or reaching out for support, we’d love to hear about it. Share with us in the comments! * Emotional health often means knowing when to take a break. What's your go-to activity or practice when you need to recharge emotionally? * How do you show yourself compassion during tough times? Share a tip or strategy that helps you be kinder to yourself when things feel overwhelming. As always, remember that we’re a community of support and understanding. This month, let’s continue to uplift one another, remind ourselves that we are not alone, and embrace the journey of healing and self-care together! 💐💗

Was me breaking up with him too drastic?

Relationship Stress / by Brightpink200214

20 minutes ago

...See more There was this person that I met about three years ago when I moved to my college town. I met him at my job and I found him funny and attractive, and I went up to him and expressed that I wanted to get to know him. Sometime later we started dating, but it wasn’t going very well because he was dealing with substances in some self-esteem and mental issues. It only lasted for about three months, but it was a really bad heartbreak. We got into contact in 2024 and he wanted to be friends and see if our friendship could develop into something more again. He wanted to prove to me that he could be better this time around and he came and drove to see me for hours and help me cook and host for Friendsgiving. He also came to visit me again and when I worked, he cleaned my room and took care of my dog. Then he came to visit me one last time before I went on vacation with family for the new year. I think he is really sweet and he asked me to officially be together December 20 24 and I thought things were going great. But it seems like when we made it official all that effort that he was showing me before we were together I went out the door. He didn’t plan any dates he didn’t take the initiative to do anything I always texted. I always called first and I always had to plan the next time we were gonna hang out or see each other. When I communicated these things, he said that he would work on it and do check-in because I didn’t like that. I wasn’t hearing from him until nighttime. He did making an attempt to change and do those check ins, but he thought that because he didn’t have a job he couldn’t plan dates. But long story short I think overall he just wasn’t ready for a relationship in my opinion I feel like if a man at the age of 23 is looking for a relationship he should have more going for himself. He lived with his mom and it seemed like I was getting in the way. Why would someone begging for a second chance not make sure their life is together before trying again? But honestly, I think what really where’s the last straw is disrespect. I said something playfully about his mom asking her husband to help her shave because her belly would get big from being pregnant just like Kourtney Kardashian with Scott. And because his mom was walking in and I had no idea when we were on the phone, he said “ well yeah I gotta go. Say hi to my mom.” And then abruptly hung up in my face. Then when I communicated that hanging up in my face is disrespectful and I didn’t like it. He told me I was pouting instead of apologizing, and then that just set me off. Was I wrong to break up with him?

Let's be friends

Young People of Color / by ashleymeo

21 minutes ago

Wishes and consequences 😇😈

Icebreakers and Games / by Tinywhisper11

30 minutes ago

Help with relationships

Relationship Stress / by CryptidCircus

33 minutes ago

Conquering Worry: Stop Sweating the Small Stuff & Setting Worry Limits

Anxiety Support / by Hope

48 minutes ago

...See more Hi everyone! I hope you are well. This week in our Conquering Worry series, we are covering a few topics, they all fit the same theme and help us not sweat the small stuff. According to Carnegie, concern is a focused, proactive thought process aimed at solving a problem or addressing an issue. It motivates us to take action and improve the situation. Worry, on the other hand, is a passive, often repetitive state of distress that consumes our energy without leading to productive results. While concern leads to action and solutions, worry drains us mentally and emotionally without resolving anything. Carnegie emphasizes the importance of recognizing the difference and choosing concern over worry to maintain mental well-being. The techniques shared here focus on reducing worry by teaching us how to manage and reframe concerns, allowing us to stay focused and proactive without being overwhelmed. By practicing these methods, we can remain concerned about what matters while letting go of unnecessary worry. How to Avoid Trifles and Focus on What Matters Many of us worry endlessly over small things, the tone of an email, an awkward interaction, or a tiny flaw in our work. He tells the story of a man who let a rude comment ruin his evening. The next morning, he realized how absurd it was to let such a minor event take over his thoughts. 🔹 Are you giving too much importance to something that won’t matter in a week or a year? 🔹 Is this worry doing anything to improve your life? Reframing Small Annoyances Carnegie shares how General Dean, a prisoner of war in Korea, refused to be broken by minor irritations. He accepted what he couldn’t control, conserving his energy for what truly mattered his survival. His circumstances were far more challenging than what most of us are facing but the overall lessons apply. Here is how we too can avoid getting worked up over small challenges. The lesson? Shift your focus. * Instead of dwelling on what went wrong, ask, "What can I learn from this?" * Instead of resenting a minor inconvenience, ask, "Does this really deserve my peace of mind?" * Instead of worrying over a single mistake, remind yourself: "In a year, this will be forgotten." One particular example that stood out to me in relevance to this chapter is about changing perspective/reframing inconvenience. Carnegie shares a story of a woman who found herself stuck at a traffic light. Initially frustrated by the wait, she realized that getting upset wasn’t going to change anything. The light would turn green when it did, and her anger only added to her stress. She decided to shift her focus. Instead of stewing over the delay, she chose to use the time to relax and reflect, turning what could have been a moment of irritation into an opportunity for peace. One simple way you can apply this: Whenever you are met with inconvenience, practice reframing it and reusing it to your advantage. Examples: * Red light: Let's take this time to practice slow breathing/grounding * Someone is late to a meeting: I can go over these notes that I am not very familiar with * Someone canceled on you: Wonderful, I get to clean my room now * Someone was upset at you: Inconvenient but I have to learn to handle these situations with grace, now I can practice X. Setting Limits on Worry: Stop-Loss Orders and Letting Go One of the most effective strategies for managing worry is the idea of a "stop-loss order", a concept borrowed from the stock market. In the stock market, a stop-loss order is used to sell a stock once its value drops to a predetermined level, limiting the financial loss. Carnegie applies this same concept to worry, suggesting that we set our own mental "stop-loss orders" to limit the amount of time we spend worrying about something. A stop-loss order on worry involves setting a mental limit on how much time and energy you’ll dedicate to a particular worry or problem. Once you’ve reached that limit, you decide to let go and move on, regardless of the situation’s outcome. It’s an exercise in self-discipline, recognizing when worry is no longer productive and deciding to stop. Carnegie shares the story of a man who lost money in the stock market, and how he applied this very concept to his emotional response. The man realized he could set a "worry limit", once he reached his personal threshold for feeling upset or concerned, he would move forward and stop dwelling on the situation. The key here is deciding in advance how much time you are willing to devote to worrying about an issue and then cutting it off when that time is up. Carnegie emphasizes that this approach is not about ignoring the problem or avoiding necessary action. Rather, it’s about not allowing worry to take over your life. Once you've set a time limit for yourself or done what you can, it’s important to shift your focus back to other, more productive things. This concept reminds me of the technique ‘Scheduling worry time’, a popular method in in the realm of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and anxiety management. The method encourages individuals to set aside specific, controlled periods of time to reflect on their concerns, rather than letting worry interfere throughout the day. So essentially what we are doing is: * Delaying worry which often reduces its intensity or the anxiety that accompanies it * Containing the worry to a specific time slot rather than it ruining your whole day * Training yourself not to worry all the time Some quotes that came to my mind when I was working on this part of the post: * "If you see ten troubles coming down the road, you can be sure that nine will run into the ditch before they reach you." — Calvin Coolidge * It is so for it can't be otherwise Here is how it looks in action This is based on broader teachings of the book and general techniques people have found helpful. * Schedule worry time: Select an appropriate amount of time to worry about your problem. Set a timer and an alarm for it. When time comes, think about your problems, ideally using the techniques we covered in A Practical Approach to Managing Worry. Once the time is over, that is it for the day, close your doc/notebook and move on. You can continue where you left off next day. * Take action: Leave the worry time with one actionable item that you aim to accomplish. It can be as simple as praying on it, or it can be a physical action. For example, if you are worried about your health deteriorating due to a sedentary lifestyle, you can decide on doing a 30 minute walk before your next worry session. Tasks of the week Part 1: Identify a recurring minor inconvenience (e.g., traffic delay, canceled appointment, work mistake) and practice reframing it positively. Example: You may decide to spend only 10 minutes thinking about a particular concern. Once the time is up, move on and focus on something more productive. Part 2: Schedule Worry Time, If you have a problem weighing on you that you keep worrying about, schedule an appropriate amount of time (typically 15-30 minutes) to worry about it. Use the approaches covered here during that time Set an alarm so you don’t miss the time and hold yourself accountable to it. Part 3: Take action, think about something you are worrying about, take one action towards resolving that worry, no matter how small. Share your experience with us after completing all three. ------------------------- This post is part of the Conquering Worry series, you can find all posts of the series here. [https://www.7cups.com/forum/community/CommunitySpace_2590/MasterpostConqueringWorryOngoingSeriesCertificateAvailable_344231/]

is it selfish if I leave soc. media friends because that site triggered my anxiety?

Anxiety Support / by hopefulencounter

51 minutes ago

Not sure if I can share meme here

Newbie Hub / by YougotthisNaush

54 minutes ago

Uplifting quotes to brighten your day

Positivity & Gratitude / by Admirablerainbow2825

55 minutes ago

...See more ------------------------- Hello everyone, I was just scrolling through some posts in this positivity and gratitude community. I was inspired by the many posts various people have been posting like the reminders, positive life lessons, quotes etc. I felt like I belong here. 7 Cups is in fact a very uplifting community to be at. I am grateful for being part of this community. I am grateful for what I am doing for this community i.e spreading the message of positivity. Having a positive mindset has changed my perspective of the world, myself and others. It has helped me build self confidence. Acceptance of self, gratitude etc. It is a cognitive triad. What we think is what we do and how we feel. Avoidance is a very harmful coping strategy. When we think negatively such as I am not good enough, I am not a good friend, I can't do this etc, we tend to find ourselves in this negative cycle where we experience stress, anxiety, depression and the many other mental health concerns and issues. ------------------------- Some of the quotes that have touched my heart are as follows: We are often stuck in this loop of thinking negatively about ourselves, the world, other people, and the future. Examples: I am not good enough.(Self) No one likes me. (People) I can't do this. What if I fail or do a mistake.(Future) Why don't we stop this cycle and instead say: I am enough. It's not like nobody likes me. There will be somebody who can support me during this time. ------- I am going to make friends. I can do it. It's okay to make mistakes. I am human. Mistakes help me grow and teach me important lessons. My aim is to help you become aware of your thoughts, feelings and actions. ------------------------- Waiting for something to happen is a wrong step to take. Planning what to do and then taking the time to do it is the right way of doing something. Telling yourself that there is no time for journaling, physical activity, and other things that you find important is like one trying to avoid something. Time is in your hands. So take this as an opportunity to grow. ------------------------- Reflection questions: What is one thing you are avoiding that you wanted to do? How are you going to achieve your goal? What are some negative beliefs you have ? Frame these negative beliefs into more positive ones. -------------------------

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LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by Heather225

55 minutes ago

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