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Depression Support / by lovedlucy13

7 minutes ago

Unloved

General Support / by sensitivePal85266

13 minutes ago

...See more I feel so unloved, like the pain of being alone in this world is too too heavy on me How do I keep going? I'm just so overwhelmed, I've been crying daily for like 3 days now I lost it, I'm not doing anything good, I'm lashing out on others. Whenever I try to make a friend I end up being selfish, and I hurt them I can't make friends, but I still need them. I've been alone almost all of my life, nobody cares about me, how do someone like me function without any of the important feelings that everyone gets? love, kindness, joy, enthusiasm, passion, ambition, humanly connection with others, nostalgia (As I never had good childhood memories, never went to any parks, zoos, oceans, traveling for fun, cinemas, or any of those places that are memorable memories for people in their childhood), and hope. I just wanted a hug for too too long, ever since I was a child, but nobody gave it to me, and now I'm a broken guy reaching adult age, and I will be blamed for my trauma as if I chose this. Unloved by parents, siblings, and everyone else who starts to know me hates me, in one way or another. 2 failed relationships, 1 blocked me, and one cheated on me I tried making a friend here, and I ended up hurting them, and now they dislike me. I wonder when they'll either block me, or use me for being too weak, I just don't think that they'll treat me any well after being this vulnerable to them, especially when they have issues themselves that could lead them to using me, or hurting me, and I understand that. I'm already a failure of becoming a man, and even a human being. Just a narcissistic who pretends to care. And I don't know what to do. Don't even have money for therapy, and I'm too broken to even go into this journey of college and jobs, I can barely survive while I'm with myself. I literally wrote this an hour before a final exam that I barely studied for, I didn't even know what was the subject till I checked it last night. People say that men can show their emotions, but that is a pathetic lie that gets told, just to pretend that we're equal, but nobody actually cares when a guy shows their emotions, unless they have a good amount in their bank account, or I guess a fancy wolf cut, or a six pack.

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Newbie Hub / by NoJudgingNoAdvising

18 minutes ago

I think my boss triggered me unintentionally

Work & Career / by mayarsaur

20 minutes ago

...See more hi everyone I’ll keep this short and simple… well, as simple as I can, because I don’t think I’ll be able to make it really simple. so I’ve been at my job for a year, this month made it a 1 year anniversary. It’s a really good job, probably the best that I’ve had since I was 18. (Now, are there advantages/disadvantages? Ofc every job does) but this job has been great as far as pay, benefits, hours, and even pto… so it’s kind of a no brainer that I actually care about my job because it works for me. OK, now that’s out of the way… (oh and my position is an assistant manager in retail) So, the company I work for, recently did/has gone through a rebrand and we have a lot of new people in corporate etc etc well, since August, payroll has been terrible. To the point that the company figured to contract out third party employees that were only meant to process our shipments. (But we only used these 3rd party employees for like, a couple of weeks) you can imagine that the employees who have been there for a long time, weren’t too happy about it and they still aren’t because we literally have no hours in our payroll. The days where it used to be at least one manager and maybe at least one associate in the morning, maybe a team member for a mid shift, and then a manager and a team member closing—are gone. I think in the beginning of September, my boss had asked myself and the other team leads if they felt comfortable opening/closing by themselves. We all said we were fine with it and that’s what we’ve been doing for a while. But a lot has changed since August/September. and you guessed it, the work load is more but there are no hours to schedule team members to help get the work done. It’s basically up to the managers at this point and if we do have scheduled employees with us, it’s like a relief. And it’s a little concerning considering it’s basically the holiday season and we’re getting a lot of shipment. but anyways. when we receive a lot of shipment, ofc it creates a lot of waste/trash (cardboard boxes mostly, but we do have big bags of garbage to throw out too.) and so because trash piles up really fast, I’ve been trying to get it out on Sundays (since all the trash seems to pile up during the week and we don’t have the hours to take it out during the week and we receive our shipment in Mondays) so I try to take it out on Sunday so that Monday it’s a smooth delivery. well, the last three times, I took the trash out by myself because I kept thinking about how we’re going to receive so many palettes because of the holidays, that I wasn’t thinking about the store policy being that a manager has to stay in the store and a team member (that’s over 18) can take the trash out (since it’s a bailer outside) so because I felt intense guilt, I told my boss. She wasn’t mad or anything but she did warn me to not do it ever again because another manager from another store had lost their job over that. I told her I understood but since Monday I’ve just felt a lot of guilt and I’ve kept thinking and rethinking everything I’ve done, whether or not it was OK or within policy or not. (Like I had left the back door propped open for shipment, ran down the hall at the end to check if he was coming and then ran back to the store) I’ve been trying to let it go and put it behind me, along with thinking of other random stuff that I think would have gotten me in trouble. But it’s been hard because like I said, I care about this job a lot, and I really don’t want to do anything that would jeopardize it. I’ve talked to some friends who had told me that I don’t owe my boss more of an explanation, and that it was good that I was honest with her. I mean my boss doesn’t seem bothered by that I told her, she seems to have made it like “water under the bridge” but yeah. I feel bad for asking for clarification on certain situations because I just don’t want to seem annoying about it. and I don’t want to keep outting myself? or I guess, ‘confessing’ so much where I could lose my job. my one friend said if there were situations that I did something and nothing came out of it, then there’s no reason to say anything. Which is true, but I keep feeling like there’s a need for my boss to know, and I don’t know why. It feels like I’m not being honest or that I’m being deceitful. but yeah I don’t know. I’m just talking out into the void lol

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Depression Support / by NoJudgingNoAdvising

21 minutes ago

Too Late

General Support / by sunnyLake7661

22 minutes ago

...See more Recently I thought of why so many people may feel depressed, the most common age people have their first depressive episode is between 19 and 21 (CDC 21% of people in a survey conducted in 2019 in the US) and adolescents have it rough as well (2020 study found 12% of adolescents reported feeling depressed). Worldwide there's a 4.21% report of depression in all ages. I often feel that 19 to 21 is the age where we suddenly change, we no longer are in high school or college anymore and we become adults. This sudden shift can cause many opportunities... and sadly many mistakes. When we hit that age we're no longer going through mood swings or developing like our formative years (12-18) and now we should be mature and finally get a job and seek work to make a living. There are many reasons for depression such as loneliness, isolation, abuse, trauma deep struggles people could have gone through. When we approach depression from people, from many walks of life, I often feel that a key problem is how we would look back on our formative years and perhaps feel that time was wasted and anything we do will be inconsequential and this carries over to older folks. We feel like because we're young we should achieve things as soon as possible before "being young" wears out, we rush so hard but don't think about everything else. If someone asked you what your life would be like if you were 65 or how you want the world to look after 65 years some people wouldn't know what to answer. Retirement would come to mind but what would that mean? Is that something you can only do when you retire? I want the world to be a better place. did anything I do ever contribute to that? And now the problem becomes did I waste my life? I've wondered this for a while and that thought comes in many forms. I didn't do things that I should've done, I made decisions that were so easy to see were wrong but I made them anyway, and I missed out on things that I should've experienced. I never felt truly happy, did I? If humans only lived for 30 years then yes it would be something that might hold more weight, but life expectancy is rising and soon the average age will one day be 80 in places like Australia or Germany. People think that doing good while their young is the only thing that matters, but once you are no longer young then what? Why give up when life is halfway there, why stop running if the start line isn't far behind you? Is it too late to turn your life around? No... there's never a reason to think it's too late to change for the better, sometimes it may feel useless but a small step is still something that we all must take to lead to big changes if you need to pause in life don't be afraid to do so or seek guidance. Life is long and experience is more valuable than time, so please don't think it's too late. If you have a goal in the distance you'll never reach it if you don't start. Likewise, if you start you'll eventually reach the end. Just don't give up because you will reach that better you, that better place, that better world, eventually. I can't tell if this should go on general support, but if someone is willing to read this, then at least I hope instead of seeking support I have possibly given support to someone else going through similar thoughts. If you've put up with my blathering I want to say; You've worked hard to stay alive, very hard, and I'm glad you are here reading this. -Sunnylake

Dead end

Depression Support / by WonderCats

24 minutes ago

What is the best approach?

General Support / by RoseFlorals

27 minutes ago

...See more Ever since I was little I have always been a strange kid. It was never in a bad way I js normally understood things faster but it was always in my own way. A while ago I had an encounter with my dad, who I have never had a good relationship with and we were talking about school. I remember him yelling and getting over a simple mistake I had made. I believe that he had used a different word from the one I was using (ex. Test instead of quiz) and in my brain I didn’t understand. This has happened quite often since I was little. I always put it off as he was having a bad day or js said others have it worse. He would always be rude and ask oh are you getting bullied, but it was never genuine. The thing was that was just how my brain worked. He would also do things like this with how my tone or attitude was. He would get really upset when I didn’t even know i had a different tone. The problem wasn’t that he got upset it was that he wouldn’t try to help me. He would just get upset as if it would automatically make me know how to fix my tone. One of the other things that would always happen that upset me a lot was that even after he would get mad he would make a joke and pretend that nothing was wrong. And as a kid i normally would easily laugh at anything and now that i think about it, it kind of feels toxic. I have so few memories from my childhood and i feel like he took them away from me. My main point with all of this is what has to do with the title. I believe that I’m autistic (the above stories being some explains of why I think so) and my mom who I have a better relationship with, I don’t know how to tell her. My dad has made me afraid to share my feelings with someone I know and worries me that things could be said about. How should I try to approach this?

Any advice?

Relationship Stress / by kiddo339

28 minutes ago

Help with queer relationship

LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by navyTree214

37 minutes ago

Weekly sharing of Goals! Week #47 2024 (Monday 11/18/24 - Sunday 11/24/24)

Motivation & Accountability / by IsayUncle

42 minutes ago

What are you proud of yourself for today?

Positivity & Gratitude / by WeronikaSunshine

55 minutes ago

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