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Day 4: What are your hopes and dreams for the future?

Positivity & Gratitude / by ASilentObserver

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Click If You're Struggling With Negative Thinking

General Support / by sellistens

13 minutes ago

...See more Do you want to stop negative thinking but just don't know how to? Well, your in the right place because I have some resources to show you. Keep reading this interactive page for more information! This way of thinking can be towards situations in your life, thinking badly of yourself as a person, or anything else negative. Maybe you've heard of CBT, maybe you haven't. If you already know what CBT is then skip the next paragraph and do the interactive tools. What Is CBT? CBT stands for "Cognitive Behavioral Therapy". It is used to track your thoughts, feelings and behavior towards a situation in your life. It could be an insecurity, a bad experience, etc. Then, once you are aware of what the situation is and how you respond to it, the only way to break the cycle of negativity is to change your thought process by reframing your thoughts. Now, this is a complicated thing to do, but if you practice, you will learn skill and on the way, your mental health improve as well. Interactive Steps Towards Completing CBT 💎STEP 1: Find a free worksheet online (Google Images as good ones). It must have a section that says "Thoughts, Feelings, (Body Sensations/optional), and Behavior" categories. If you don't have a printer, copy the worksheet down on a piece of paper. Then, write down your situation or insecurity, your thoughts regarding that, how it made you feel, and how you acted after those thoughts and feelings. Examples: Website: CB: Example and Practice Sheet. TherapistAid.com https://www.therapistaid.com/therapy-worksheet/cognitive-model-example-practice and https://www.therapistaid.com/images/content/worksheet/cognitive-model-example-practice/previews/standard-english-page-2.webp . (you can find more on google images) ❗ NOTICE: Did you notice the right side of the table on the worksheet has a part where it says "Alternative Thought"? This is the next step. 💎 STEP 2: Reframe the thought. This is a difficult one. People think that it has to be extremely positive. I'll tell you why that doesn't work. You simply won't believe what your writing down! It has to be REALISTIC and BELIEVEABLE to you. Examples: Original Thought: "I'm really bad at cooking" Reframed Thought: "I am working on being better at cooking because I am practicing. Every step counts!" 💎 STEP 3: Write how the reframed thought makes you feel and imagine how you may act if you changed the thought permanently. Keep in mind: Your brain CAN change! Your brain makes connections inside itself through nerve cells called neurons. If you train your brain to think this way, the neurons will make connections and make it a habit to reframe the negative thinking. I wrote this not only for myself, but also for you all on 7 Cups. I believe it would be helpful to me so I thought I would share my research/knowledge. Thank you and I hope that helps! I would LOVE to hear feedback and comments on this post! Also feel free to reach out to me if you need help - SelListens

Day 2: What were the biggest challenges you faced and how did you overcome them?

Positivity & Gratitude / by ASilentObserver

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Can we be friends

Around the World / by versatileBeing2140

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Tasty Snack

Icebreakers and Games / by genericbeing

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I think it's unfair how people who hurted me happy while I'm not

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35 & Over Community / by forcefulBirch2526

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Emotional abuse as a child and autism, ADHD, OCD

ADHD Support / by intuitiveBanana3597

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I need to talk to someone...

General Support / by Melololo

44 minutes ago

Difficult adult children

Parenting & Pregnancy / by placidNectarine2050

48 minutes ago

...See more This is going to be rather long, but I’d like to get the idea out there. I am at the end of my rope and have nowhere to turn. I have 6 kids ages 30-16. We were your basic wholesome tv show family. I don’t know how things got so turned around. The 30 year old always was a star student and a good athlete. Well rounded kid. His third year of college they reorganized his department and he would need more credits and 2 more years of school, he hit burn out, had an ulcer and ended up quitting. Since then he has serious anger outbursts. Second child 27, divorced with 5 yr old daughter. She married right out of high school, he was Air Force. She also developed and anger issue sometime after they moved to Dc. Hers aren’t as scary as his, but at the drop of a pin she will snap and when she does she is even mean to her child. Verbally abusive to her and anyone in her path. She moved in with us a year ago since the divorce since she had to go back to work and I’m the babysitter. She is messy, doesn’t clean or cook. Asks me what’s for dinner everyday and after dinner leaves the dishes and food for me to clean up. My house was clean and ready for company at anytime before she moved in. Third child(25) had a baby to a guy she knew wasn’t sticking around. I also babysit her now 2 year old. She is also messy. Comes after work to pick up her daughter, cooks eats plays whatever she wants. Doesn’t clean any of it up then leaves. She also yells at me quite often, but not as explosive as the other two. Fourth (23)married and helpful when she wants to be but not really a problem. Her husband is about the same. The fifth(19) was my shy girl. Good student, did dance, and horseback, color guard. She started daring at 15. First guy(15) she said broke up with her because she wouldn’t have sex with him. Second guy (16) would walk through fire for her. They dated for a year. One day he saw her text another guy and asked her about it, she got mad and and started swinging at him and said he hit her. No marks and I one saw him swing. Next guy (19) was leaving for Air Force. She was head over heels, cried for days when he left, spent a lot of time with his mom and family. When he was coming home she begged for him to move in here. If not she’s moving out. We said ok as she was almost done with school and wanted to be sure she finished. He proposed of the plane in uniform. Both families did everything together. She started working late and a few other things that I asked about but seemed to be normal. She ran away one day was gone for 10 months. During that time she told people he assaulted her, I was abusive, and a series of other lies. The story changed every time some one else heard it. She did so many things I can’t even begin to explain. She came back pregant to another guy last march and I welcomed her back and paid for her lawyer to get out of legal trouble she was in. She and boyfriend moved in had the baby and I did everything from the baby shower to a crib and whatever else we could do. She got moody and irritable and one day got mad and exploded on sister that lives here and left again with the baby and told me I’ll never see the baby again because of her sister. I haven’t seen him and she is barely talking to anyone but third child with the 2 yr old. She has caused me more heartache than I thought possible. You best child is 16, he’s a good kid and when she left he tried to be the man to help me. He is always waiting for me to be done with the grandkids and the crap with the older kids, but never complains. Which isn’t fair to him. The two with kids take advantage of me and will not help watch each others kids to give me a break, I watch kids 6-7 days a week spanning from 3:30am - 9:30pm some days. Most often 6am - 6pm. And the moms don’t clean up after the kids because “ it’s not their house and they didn’t let the kids make the mess.” These kids as much as I love them are not parented much, so they’re a lot harder than my 6 were. I have to cancel dr appointments and everything to accommodate their schedules but they will not do the same for me. I am drowning, I am overwhelmed and I have no life of my own. I feel they should come straighten up help with dinners once in while. On their days off watch the others child so I have a day off. My kids are ungrateful spoiled brats. Sorry for the long rant.

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