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I'm so hopeless, I don't know what to do

General Support / by Zae1

3 minutes ago

...See more Hi everyone, I hope you're all doing well, anyone reading this. It's my first post here so I'm a little anxious. I would like to share a little of how I feel. I won't share much of my personal information, but I am a girl. I'm in my second semester of college, and so far I'm doing very well. The thing is, about 5 years ago I started to develop low self-esteem. But it's something I was able to control. But over time, everything got worse. I looked for support from my friends and other people and those things. Everything was going well. But about 4-5 months ago I started to suffer from something similar to anhedonia. My life has always been one of constant stress because of the fear of disappointing my parents with my grades. I developed gastritis at an early age.Well, getting back to the topic of my supposed anhedonia, I feel weird. I'm being honest. I feel bad and very weird.Before, (I mean about a year),I was a very compassionate and emotional person. I spent a lot of time playing my favorite video games and characters, enjoying my hobbies and spending time with my friends. A lot.I have always been a good student, daughter, and daugther. I was passionate about mysterious things and magical, medieval vibes.I had a talent. Yes, I did. I loved drawing since I was little. I have an art account on ***, but I haven't posted anything there for a month.I feel hopeless. For a couple of years now I guess I really was suffering from depression. Nothing matters to me. I stopped talking to many friends. I have a void in my chest. I can't cry the way I'd like to. I've never been completely happy for long in my life. I'm always going from here to there. I've always felt like I'm weird. I'm not happy with myself. The last few months have been about getting through my day to day life. I have a music playlist. I loved that music and it made me feel things and feel good, wanting to fight for my passions. But now I don't feel anything. I listen to them and I don't feel anything. I've been looking into this a lot and I think it's "emotional burnout". But I'm not interested. I don't want to go outside. I miss how I used to feel. With my tastes and my passions and the things I loved. I used to have a lot of projects with my art and stuff like that. I've tried to convince myself that I'm supposed to grow up. But adults are also happy and feel things, right? I guess I've ruined my life with my pessimism. I'll never feel anything again, I think.All my pleasures for which I fought three years are not worth it.I have been looking for new interests in case you are wondering. Yes, this year I discovered a sport that I love and that did not affect my other interests. But now I no longer feel that spark when I watch my favorite sports. I can't really talk to my parents for help right now because they are in a difficult situation with their jobs. And I can't get a therapist at the moment... I miss my video games, talking to my friends, enjoying my art and my favorite characters.I miss my emotions. I miss being sentimental.. I miss everything. And I blame myself every day.. it's hard to cope with all this.. for all these years.. All these four years of holding on and thinking that the next day will be better. All those nights I cried because I wished I wasn't here.All these years doubting everything. I've been miserable.I'm the oldest sister, so I don't want my little brother to go through what I've been going through. My chest hurts. I feel lost. I feel bad.I don't care about myself. I miss everything. That's all.I don't feel well enough to give more details. I'm sorry if you read all this and thank you for reading it. Thank you for your patience and your valuable time.I would appreciate if anyone could leave a comment if they could. Just wanted to share this. Thanks and have a nice day.

I just feel very alone and everyday just feels the same

Depression Support / by ashmotionless570

16 minutes ago

...See more I often feel really alone because it seems like everyone around me lies and then leaves. I get why this happens since I've always been too shy to reach out and start conversations myself. Starting a conversation is really tough for me because I never know what to say. Deep down, I'm always scared of being ignored or ghosted. This fear of rejection has been with me for a long time, which makes it hard for me to keep friendships going. The only person I can really count on is my boyfriend. I know he can be controlling sometimes, like when he tells me what to say in messages or insists I send long goodnight texts, but he is still there for me when no one else is. He understands that I struggle to work because I often feel overwhelmed with anger and might lash out at people, so instead of trying to find a job, I'm just saving money so I won't have to deal with that stress. I really appreciate that he sees how much I depend on him and takes care of me because I feel a lot safer with him than I do alone. I’ve been hurt by so many people who promised to be there for me but ended up leaving, which is why I’d rather deal with his controlling side than go through the pain of being ignored or abandoned. With him, I don’t feel the pressure to be independent if I don’t want to, and that feels comforting because I need someone to help me escape my stepdad, who is abusive and never changes. He calls me names, makes up lies about me, and criticizes my music. My mom chooses to drink instead of getting help, which makes things worse because she doesn’t change either. I understand she drinks to handle her stress, but I’m just so tired of feeling like I’m stuck in a hopeless situation. It really hurts when I’m lied to or treated badly, and the only feelings I have in response are anger and sadness, which makes me feel like I could explode. It’s just hard for me to be nice to people when they hurt me. My boyfriend is pretty much the only one who stays by my side, and even though our communication isn’t perfect—he sometimes changes the subject when I want to talk about something important—I still prefer having him around over feeling alone and hurt. He makes me feel safe and comfortable. I don’t leave my house much because I have a disability that makes me worry about how people see me. I’m scared of being judged or looked at in a negative way. With all the scary things happening in the world, like shootings, I just don’t feel safe outside at all. I don’t even try to start conversations, either in person or online, so I completely understand why people end up leaving since I often feel tired of people saying they will be there for me but then disappearing makes me feel as everyone is the same. It feels like my boyfriend is the only one I can really talk to. He understands I struggle with everyday tasks like cooking, personal hygiene, grocery shopping, and even talking on the phone. Honestly, I can’t see how I could ever live independently. I plan to move back in with him soon since we’ve been together for eight years, and he has never left me. I’m just so tired of crying over feeling hurt, and everything makes me angry—from being ignored to just feeling bad, and I’m really sick of it all. I know he can be demanding when I don’t respond to his messages right away; he will resend them or delete them if I don’t reply, and he tells me what to say even when I need time to myself. But honestly, it feels easier to deal with that than to be alone. Sometimes I really need help knowing what to say, and I know he will never leave me. I love him and care about him. He has mentioned that he has borderline autism, and I realize that even with his controlling behavior, I would still rather deal with that than face people who leave me and lie. I always find myself questioning what I did that was wrong. I’m at a point where I don’t even want to leave the house anymore because it feels pointless, especially with everything that has happened to me. I don’t like going out to do simple things like grocery shopping because I always think something bad will happen. I can’t help that everything makes me feel angry, especially when I’m hurt by being ignored or triggered by words and reactions. I even stopped commenting on things on *** because I’ve noticed that people often laugh at comments that aren’t meant to be funny, which sets me off and makes me react with anger. So now, I’ve just avoided posting or commenting on anything. When I stop doing that, I end up crying because it feels like someone is laughing at me, which is why I don’t interact much anymore. I’m scared of judgment because the world can be so harsh and cruel. I’ve even stopped walking anywhere because someone yelled mean insults at me from a car while I was just minding my own business, which really showed me just how rude people can be. That’s why I feel safest and most comfortable at home. With everything I’ve shared, my boyfriend is really the only person I feel truly cares about me. I’ve spent time with him during holidays and special occasions, and when I lived with him, I felt a lot less alone. But when I’m back in Georgia, I feel so isolated. There’s nobody wanting to hang out, and I also don’t reach out because I get it—other people have their own busy lives with work and kids. I’m really sorry for going on and on about this, but I just needed to vent and get everything off my chest.

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Personality Disorders Community Check-in: November 7th–November 13th

Personality Disorders Support / by QuietMagic

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...See more Hello, PD Support Community! Image source [https://poe.com/s/mj8J8WlaAI0yP34QESgV] 💙 How are you doing today? 💙 What is something that brings you a sense of peace? (Or if peace doesn't feel accessible, what helps with navigating that lack of peace?) If you prefer not to answer these questions, feel free to say hello, ask for a hug, or share anything else that's on your mind. 💙 If you would like to be added or removed from the taglist, click here [https://www.7cups.com/forum/personalitydisorders/Resources_2667/PersonalityDisordersSupportCommunityTaglist_284167/] Taglist: @Adeline12345 @AlfAndthemachine @alleywood13 @Alwaysinpyjamas @ambitiousVase1322 @amicableDime9946 @AndreaDawn @arbanon @ARC80 @AutumnLauren6 @autumnthemoth @Avocado22 @azuladragon34 @b4Damion @BaggageClaim @berrymimi @bestcase @Blue123456618 @blueAngel00 @caringPerspective41 @CheerySandi @ChristmasGift @courageousPond1835 @crang17 @crimsonPlane2738 @cyanPlatypus6370 @dagaz13th @DamagedOne13 @daydreammemories @dberryy @diamondintheROUGH2022 @DIDisaythat @DoggoMom @ebonyyyblondie89 @EddaLayla @emerijourney @EmmaSwan18 @EmotionalNerd @Everythingisbetterinyourpyjamas @fearlessOcean2254 @fearlessSouth4632 @fireyseastar97 @FloweringBunny @forcefulFriend4768 @FreakFactor7 @generousEyes493 @Glue @Goldcherry2113 @GRAPSPRO2033 @GreenScarab @Hadeel96 @HashiramaNinja @Healing0Pillow @healingHeart1111 @heartycitrus @HopeandFaith @Hyacinth22 @IdolPigment @ImaginativePenny152 @imclover @indigoCup1959 @intelligentWheel627 @Irishrose78 @itsmeow @Jasminerice @Jish07541 @JoniGirl @Jupiterbeingahuman @JusticiaPrimalDorogo @JustSophia @K87 @kindTurtle3738 @LabeledBPD @LadyNikita @LavenderFlower @learningtolovemyself @Lemino @LightsFromDark @Lilac4Roses @LiliTwolsky @limeRaspberries2286 @lovelyWords13 @LoveTracker @maple23 @MeeshyRB @MelG919 @missg @Mkmultra @munchiegoosie @nervoussmiles @NightshadeVenom @Nubia87 @OneErased @optimisticMagic0014 @OrangePeel24 @Oxymoron6demon @passionateJackfruit5095 @Piggy @placidShade4261 @Pointlesswords @Psalm139 @QueenBee03 @QueenSerenity5 @QuietMagic @racqueldawn @raininglillies13 @raspberryWatermelon7195 @rationalGrapefruitq @Red789 @RelaxedPanda @RemorseCode2 @Rex0911 @RoadLessTraveled @runaway101 @SadBlueEyes @selfdisciplinedBunny232 @ShyCat1678201 @SilverSeastar @Sleepwalkermw @spectacularCandy9984 @Stardew3 @Starilus @StrangeKat @sunflower2480 @Tamy4210 @Tatianaalize @tohealthemoon @toucans @Triscups @Twigo7 @uniqueRose1689 @versatilePomegranate60 @WalkingCrow @witchyyrose @Xe

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Coping With Time Changes: Daylight Savings Time

7 Cups Online Therapy / by soulsings

32 minutes ago

...See more 5 tips to help you reset after the daylight saving time change Daylight saving time officially ends at 2 a.m. local time on Sunday, Nov. 3. And while many rejoice over the extra hour of sleep that comes with "falling back," messing with our body clock takes a toll. In fact, the shift in your body's sleep-wake cycle can disrupt your sleep for several days. Being underslept has a long list of downsides. The evidence has piled up. Without adequate sleep, we set ourselves up for increased risk of anxiety, depression, weight gain, even dementia. So if you're trying to adjust to the time change or are just ready to change your sleeping habits overall, what can you do? 1) Open the blinds, or better yet, go outside! Try to start your day with a bath of sunlight. Open the blinds. And if you can, go outside for at least 20 minutes in the early to mid-morning hours. Studies show that daylight exposure in the morning tends to lead to better sleep at night. 2) Give up the afternoon latte. (Yes, really!) There's a compound found in our bodies and brains called adenosine. Walker calls it "the sleepiness chemical." You want it to build up throughout the day so that you're ready to sleep when your head hits the pillow. But caffeine can latch onto the receptors for adenosine. "Caffeine comes into your system, and it hits the mute button on the adenosine signal of sleepiness, so it wakes you up," 3) Move your body and get tired. Exercise may help promote good sleep in two ways. Physical activity is known to reduce anxiety, so this alone may contribute to good sleep. In addition, exercise can physically tire you out. A lot of studies demonstrate the link between physical activity and improved sleep. 4) Limit your evening alcohol intake. [and other intoxicants] alcohol can block or interfere with deep sleep, making our sleep more fragmented. There's a lot of research showing alcohol's bad effects on sleep. After a night of drinking, REM sleep — the stage of sleep in which you dream more — tends to be suppressed. This may be especially true during the first part of the night, when there's still alcohol in the bloodstream. 5) Make your bedroom a screen-free, peaceful refuge. Lots of us are tethered to our devices. But these electronics can expose us to a type of light known as blue light. And when we bring our devices into bed with us, it can interfere with sleep. How? The blue light can prevent or slow down the release of the sleep hormone melatonin — that's the hormone that signals to our brain that it's time to start dozing off. So really try (and we mean this!) to read from an old-fashioned book or paper magazine at bedtime. 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