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I’m not done

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🎅 what is that one really unnecessarily expensive xmas gift you really want???

General Support / by Tinywhisper11

5 minutes ago

My story

Reading & Writing / by LeighUnruly40

6 minutes ago

...See more Hi, I was looking for a place to share my story, and I thought this forum seemed like a good place to start. I hope I’m right. I was born in Leicester, and my parents were together until I was around three. Then my mum left with me, and we came to London, moving through temporary housing and eventually staying with some of my mum’s family. I don’t remember everything from that time, but over the years, I’ve learned about it through stories my mum shared. When I was around six, I started having a difficult time with my mum. She was often physically aggressive, using household items and sometimes her hands. I have a few clear memories that still stay with me—things like having my head banged against a wall and being told hurtful things or feeling scared in situations I couldn’t control. Those years had a big impact on me. My mum later started a new relationship, and when I was seven, I met my dad for the first time. I didn’t feel a real connection with him, and the visit was short. Shortly after, my younger brother was born, and I became a caretaker for him in a lot of ways, even from a very young age. My relationship with my mum continued to be challenging, and eventually, social services became involved. I spent my early teens in various children’s homes, which exposed me to difficult situations, and I often felt I had to fend for myself. I didn’t have role models to guide me, and over time I became involved in risky situations that I’m not proud of. In my twenties, I started a family of my own. I’ve been through a few relationships, and each has left its own mark on me, often bringing out issues I’m still learning to understand. I have three kids, though I haven’t been able to be as present in their lives as I’d hoped. Those experiences have been painful, but they’re also part of what’s pushed me to try and work through the struggles I face. In the years since, I’ve been diagnosed with several mental health conditions, including complex PTSD, borderline personality disorder, and depression. There are also things I suspect about myself, such as possibly having ADHD or body image issues, though I haven’t been formally diagnosed. I struggle with authority and have a very strong reaction to any kind of aggression toward children, especially given my own past. Managing anger has been a constant challenge, and I often feel overwhelmed by life’s challenges. My mum passed away when I was around 34, leaving me with a lot of unanswered questions and a sense of unresolved pain. I have siblings, but unfortunately, we’re not close, and I’ve often felt like the odd one out in my own family. After many years of homelessness, I’m now in temporary housing, which is a huge relief. I’ve found peace in things like camping and have even been exploring the countryside. Recently, I traveled to a village on the England-Scotland border and was moved by the kindness of strangers there. It reminded me there’s more to life than what I’ve experienced in the past, and I’m hoping to make that a part of my future. After using ChatGPT, I came across this community and, with a little hesitation, decided to give it a try. I’m hoping to connect with people who can relate, share advice, or even just provide some understanding. A friend who gets it would be amazing. Thank you for reading my story. — Leigh aka Unruly

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A place to chat and check in!!

Pen Pals / by Sophia7721

24 minutes ago

Unloved

General Support / by sensitivePal85266

28 minutes ago

...See more I feel so unloved, like the pain of being alone in this world is too too heavy on me How do I keep going? I'm just so overwhelmed, I've been crying daily for like 3 days now I lost it, I'm not doing anything good, I'm lashing out on others. Whenever I try to make a friend I end up being selfish, and I hurt them I can't make friends, but I still need them. I've been alone almost all of my life, nobody cares about me, how do someone like me function without any of the important feelings that everyone gets? love, kindness, joy, enthusiasm, passion, ambition, humanly connection with others, nostalgia (As I never had good childhood memories, never went to any parks, zoos, oceans, traveling for fun, cinemas, or any of those places that are memorable memories for people in their childhood), and hope. I just wanted a hug for too too long, ever since I was a child, but nobody gave it to me, and now I'm a broken guy reaching adult age, and I will be blamed for my trauma as if I chose this. Unloved by parents, siblings, and everyone else who starts to know me hates me, in one way or another. 2 failed relationships, 1 blocked me, and one cheated on me I tried making a friend here, and I ended up hurting them, and now they dislike me. I wonder when they'll either block me, or use me for being too weak, I just don't think that they'll treat me any well after being this vulnerable to them, especially when they have issues themselves that could lead them to using me, or hurting me, and I understand that. I'm already a failure of becoming a man, and even a human being. Just a narcissistic who pretends to care. And I don't know what to do. Don't even have money for therapy, and I'm too broken to even go into this journey of college and jobs, I can barely survive while I'm with myself. I literally wrote this an hour before a final exam that I barely studied for, I didn't even know what was the subject till I checked it last night. People say that men can show their emotions, but that is a pathetic lie that gets told, just to pretend that we're equal, but nobody actually cares when a guy shows their emotions, unless they have a good amount in their bank account, or I guess a fancy wolf cut, or a six pack.

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Positivity & Gratitude / by Sunisshiningandsoareyou

47 minutes ago

...See more Hey hey everyone, it's thaaaaatttt time of the year, and of course our lovely Peer Appreciation Program [https://www.7cups.com/forum/gratitude/AppreciationProgram_2310/PeerAppreciationProgram_262230/] had to step up!🥰 (For what?😮) For Thanksgiving. (duh!) While traditional festivities often center around enormous feasts with family and friends gathered around a table, we have the unique opportunity to adapt our celebrations for a virtual world, our beloved Cups-Space here. Thanksgiving, however one sees it, is mostly, I feel a joyful occasion that calls for gratitude, connection, and, most importantly, a genuine appreciation for the wonderful people in our lives. As we gather virtually on Cupsland, let’s celebrate the spirit of Thanksgiving by shining a light on one another and making this a joyous celebration of our friendships, support systems, love, kindness and the compassion we share.💛 So this year, let’s celebrate "Cups-giving"~ a delightful riff on Thanksgiving where we celebrate and "refill" each other's cups with positivity and gratitude. And what better way to do that than through words of appreciation? Because hey, a few kind words, and some genuine encouragement really does go a long long way.🥰 Each of us carries a unique cup filled with our emotions, experiences, efforts, and moments shared. The beauty of our community lies in the support and joy we bring to one another, yes(?). I believe, every interaction, every smile, every encouraging word, every kind act, every thoughtful gesture adds a drop to our collective cup~ the giant 7CupsCommunityCup that has every possible flavor brewed with love, and garnished with kindness!💛 ------------------------- I can really go on about the Spirit of Thanksgiving, the Importance of Gratitude and my Excitement to see the Appreciations flowing in, but we got to do this early, so the notes can be delivered *this* year 😂 and therefore, without further yapping, to kick things off, here are some fun and heartfelt prompts for you to spread joy and appreciation around.💛 (I think I already did half the work here for you 😛) All there's left now is to truly embrace the spirit of gratitude within and make someone's day with a heartfelt message!🥰 ⭐ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you message to a listener here. (Someone who listened and supported in either PMs, Forums or Chatrooms) 💕 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you message to a fellow peer (member/ listener) who inspires you. 💙 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you note to someone who mentored or guided you here. (In any way big or small) 😄 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you message to the last peer who made you smile on here. (Ah tough, because sooo many smiley-spreaders here) 🤣 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you note to the person who always makes you laugh. (We've got some around here with the best humor lol) 🌻 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you message to someone you find encouraging and uplifting. (Easyyyy) 💬 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you to the last person you talked to here. (Hopefully it was a good chat hehe, they deserve to know they've left a mark) 💡 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you note to someone who has shared a helpful resource or tip or insight with you. (Mhmm, can think of so many) 🤗 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you message to a friend who’s been there for you through ups and downs. (You get to appreciate your palsss woohoo) 🎨 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you to someone who brightens your day with their creativity. (Ooh if you're ever confused, please hop over to the peer appreciation program thread and you'll find some very talented people to appreciate) 🦋 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you message to someone whose passion inspires you. (Could be for anything really, a hobby, to get better/ work on their goals and health, a passionate 7 cups leader etc etc) 💥 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you to a peer who has shared a meaningful experience/ deeply resonant interaction with you. (There's conversations, and then there's some conversations that leave an ever-lasting impact, can you think of someone who did this for you?) 🤩 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you note to someone you admire for their hard work and dedication. (Oh to be spoiled with choices) 🥳 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you message to someone who encourages you to be your best self. (Someone who brings out the best in youuuu here) 🌈 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you note to a peer whose kindness has made a difference in your life. (I've got plenty) 📚 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you to someone who has taught you something new recently. (About cups or life, again, anything big or small counts) 🧚‍♀️ [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you message to a forum-fairy. (Someone who is seen being a supportive, uplifting fairy in the forums) 🤝 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you note to the Group-Support-Hero. (Someone you've witnessed hosting fantastically or participating enthusiastically in a group chatroom) 🫶 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a note to someone you think could use some kindness, encouragement, support and love. (Legit everyone here hehe) 🥰 [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/formResponse] Send a thank you note to yourself. (No no, dont you roll your eyes at me lol! You deserve it too [https://www.7cups.com/forum/PositivityGratitude_170/PeerAppreciationProgram_2310/AppreciateYourForever1_273981/]~because you are amazinggggg) ------------------------- To make this funn-errr, how about a little game-ish spin to it? Sooo when you've submitted your thank you note, along with your thoughts on our Cupsgiving Celebration, you can comment "Done" and drop the emoji of your choice from the above list, to serve as a prompt for the next person coming across it. 🥳 (In the slightest case, you wish to opt for a different prompt rather than the one you got from the previous comment, please feel free to pick and choose; it's the intentional participation that matters more here hehe) Okay Sun, that was a lot to read, Can I get started already?😮 Yessss, you can, just one last teeny message more and then off you gooooo spreading smiles and gratitude!🥹 Soooooo besides the smiles you're going to spread and receive here, we also have you covered with cheers! (What are cheers now? Read Up here lol! [https://www.7cups.com/listener/training/points/#]) For us, cheers are virtual tokens of appreciation that we like to award you with, for being your cheerful self spreading smiles! (🥳You recieve 20 cheers for each submission [https://www.7cups.com/forum/gratitude/AppreciationProgram_2310/CheersforCheerfulAppreciators_299216/]🥳) So when you spread gratitude, you’re not just making someone’s day brighter, you’re also getting rewarded for your kindness. It’s a win-win, yeah?! (I'd like to believe the reward is an "extra" here, like a bonus for your time and love, but in all honesty, just realizing you've made someone's day and made someone smile is worth every second spent in typing out a heart-warming message) Said everything but the most important thing? Where to send the note and where will we see it once posted? Oops yes, Click Me To Spread Joy [https://docs.google.com/forms/u/5/d/e/1FAIpQLScsCXyPYjQ4dsfLMh2ZzXC4of1lEutJsSasbkzc6JLDq7b8ow/viewform] (or the respective emoji you got) and the appreciations will be posted in the Peer Appreciation Program Thread [https://www.7cups.com/forum/gratitude/AppreciationProgram_2310/PeerAppreciationProgram_262230/] itself. Yes, you can fill out as many appreciations you want to, for as many people you want to express your gratitude to or want to send a little "I'm thinking of you this thanksgiving" note. Utilising as many prompts you like to, or even without!🥰 (Wanna join hands on the other side of the table and help us deliver these notes too? Click here to join the Peer Appreciation Team [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSfo8Myq7_mZ3_lt0AtTwRf4-7g3Fvy42oz3h-IXGS-C6Slu7g/viewform]) Alrighty, everything's covered, I thiiiinkkkk. So now just would like to take this opportunity to thank *you* for being a part of the community.💛 Wishing everyone a joyful, loving and content Thanksgiving!🤗

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Newbie Hub / by NoJudgingNoAdvising

1 hour ago

My dad made me dump my kittens off on the road. I feel horrible

Depression Support / by marsbursss

1 hour ago

...See more A bit of background. I am a teen who doesn’t know how to drive because my dad wasn’t rlly there half of my teen life, he returned abt 2 years ago abt 3 now but he still doesn’t rlly show me how to drive. My mom can’t drive. So, we have kittens from my cat(i want to get a job to neuter her; rn isn’t a good time bc i need to finish my school) anyway, my mom wanted to take responsibility for them because she got angry of me making sure the cats were outside doing their business in the backyard saying it was cold and I told her to take care of them because she was nagging about them and she did but this ended up being, me feeding the cats because my mom was on the phone with her boyfriend. (parents are not together) and i would find cat poop and pee inside the house, especially in their room and my little sister sleeps with them so I was worried because we had just closed the case with CPS but my mom still didn’t do it. My last straw was when she let them out on the front porch and they almost got ran over a bunch of times and she was standing there on the phone, talking to an another guy. My dad offered to take them and I did it with him, i thought maybe he would drop them off at a animal shelter. But what he ended up doing was he made me drop them off beside the train track and i think we were seen. But i ended up realizing my father isn’t someone i should be looking up to, i tried to talk to him about an animal shelter but he said no. There were cars and I can’t help but think i ended up killing them by my actions. They didn’t know better yk, they are kitten. My dad hates cats and dogs. But my dad acted normal and because i look up to my dad, I acted like it was okay. I’m trying to erase it from my memory snd pretend nothing happen but now i know because i use to have other animals that my dad most likely did leave them to die, I wanted to believe he didn’t but.. yeah. I don’t wanna become like my dad and not have a feeling or remorse towards animals because I mean i love my dad and a lot of what i do comes from his actions but this i don’t wanna copy this behavior. But i also don’t want to be like my mom, she is very dramatic about animals. I don’t have the nicest perspective on my mom, I am trying to be better because i know my mom dealt with a lot but my mom she loves animals but doesn’t want to take care of them and their feces or pee and will let the house get dirty and smell if it meant the animals lived there. She ended up calling the cops on my dad for this but they just ignored her call. I am very tired of my family. I feel like i am in the middle of my parents fighting, trying to get my siblings to listen and parent them while finding them something to eat because my mom won’t feed them and my mom help my dad pay the bills (she only pays one bill, which is the one less expensive and blows money on dresses) . I am tired. I have a lot of classes i need done in order to graduate this year. I am not doing the best. I have a very supportive boyfriend but I needed to vent again because i just don’t feel okay. I just. idk.

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