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Summary Discussion The Fear of Aging

50 & Over Community / by pamharley003

50 minutes ago

...See more Last week in the discussion We spoke about the fear of aging> I would like to add a little more to it of the 5 fears of aging and what they mean. As we all begin to get older we are faced with some concerns for ourselves. I know personally I am going to be 60 soon and wonder do I have my life where it needs to be and to what means can I make to make sure my life ones are taken care of. There are 5 main fear to people as we get old: 1. Losing independence - We fear as we grow older the need to ask family or friends for help because we can not do things like we did when we were younger. We may ask for help around the inside and outside of our homes because we can not bend or carry things we need to do in keeping our homes looking good. We may ask in helping to take care of ourselves if we are living with our children because we grew to old to live alone. We may have a hard time cooking or just plain taking care of our hygiene. 2. Deteriorating health - As we begin to age we may be faced with medical bot mental and physical health problems. We may have a stroke enabling us not to function with daily activities. We may have a heart attack , cancer or alzeheimer disease. 3. Loneliness - When we live alone because our children grew old enough to leave home or lost a spouse to passing away we experience being sad to be alone. Our children may live in another star or country and seeing them like we did can cause loneliness. 4. Financial insecurities - As we age we begin to worry if we will have money to survive as the economy is changing, forcing more demand on rent, gas for vehicles, food increases and medication increases. We begin to wonder if our Social Security will be enough to make ends meet or will we have to take on part time jobs just to survive. 5. Death - not a topic I want to think about but it is a way of life and we need to make sure our finances are in place if we should leave it to others to take care of. Many begin to feel if there will be pain and suffering experienced when we do pass. How can we deal with these fears mentioned above, we can keep a healthy intake of our lives. We can eat and exercise more to prolong a healthy life style. We begin to take hold of our emotional help speaking to family or friends maybe even seeing a therapist to help us cope with it. We can get involved in community activities to keep our time going and not be lonely. Take courses on aging so we can be better prepared for the process. 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IDG 7 Cups Community Hub / by fruityCherry7666

50 minutes ago

Feeling acceptation

IDG 7 Cups Community Hub / by patientShell1003

53 minutes ago

Why is there so much?

Anxiety Support / by ThereIsNoSpoon1

53 minutes ago

...See more This is totally long, I just wanted to get it all out. Sorry! I love Christmas. Like love, love, love it! But this time of year is so hard. My family starts making all sorts of demands on my time and energy and my birthday is coming. My least favorite day of the year. My anxiety is so much worse from Thanksgiving to Christmas that I can barely breathe most of the time. Maybe that's why I hold so hard to Christmas. I don't want to celebrate my birthday. I don't even remember most of my birthdays, except for my 30th. I remember that one because it was almost the last. It was really due to my family, although my mental health was already so bad. How could they just forget me? How could every single person in my life just forget me? I never mattered to anyone. It was only one day, but it was important to me. I knew it would be dangerous for me to be alone, I begged them to take the night and celebrate with me. Every single person I knew had a reason why they could be bothered, except my family. They had no reasons, they just ghosted me. Not a single person called me, texted, not even a *** post. I hurt so much, I just gave up. I called one friend and told her I was giving up, and she took me seriously. She came for that, but she couldn't come before that. After I got out of the hospital I told everyone what happened. They were so shocked. They kept asking if I would do it again, and I said No. *** them. They didn't care, they would have let me be alone. I never want to celebrate with them, they make me miserable, but they insist every year. They think it absolves them. Nothing will ever make it better. I will never believe that they actually care about me. But I was ok. I gave up religion, family, and finally friends, although that took longer. I found the one thing I wanted more than anything in the world, and worked to get it: a family of my own. Finally when I was 35 I had my son. For 11 years I was so happy, peaceful. As long as he was ok, I was ok. I live for him, he is all that matters. Until October 1, 2024. The school had a crisis, I couldn't get there, I didn't know what was happening or if he was ok. Jenifer tried to keep me updated, she was there, she got him right away and got him right to me. She told me I never had to worry about him if she's there. He was fine, he was never in danger. But now I feel broken. I can't stop the anxiety attacks and the depression is getting stronger again. Jen helped me for the first week, keeping me busy and letting me talk, cry, hyperventilate. I told her everything, but I feel guilty about dumping it all on her. My family wasn't there. They asked if he was ok once over text, and once they knew he was they disappeared again. Not a surprise. It was even a relief to not have to deal with them. Except that I need help. I really do. I have no money and no insurance. I can't get meds or therapy. I have nobody to talk to but Jen, and I'm terrified of driving her away if I keep trauma-dumping on her. And I just ignored my family, because obviously they don't care. I stopped answering texts from them, and didn't call them. And it was actually better because I didn't have to factor them into my anxiety anymore. But now Thanksgiving is coming, and they want to talk and make holiday plans. I tried not to engage, but my sister asked me if I was coming for Thanksgiving so my niece could have her birthday party, and I said Yes. Just Yes. And now she's texting me all the time and I am having anxiety attacks and I DON'T want to answer, but I feel guilty. They don't even know I was having such a hard time. Why would they? They didn't ask and I didn't tell them. They may want to help. BUT THEY ARE NEVER HELPFUL! They just put pressure on me, and my mom is manipulative, and I get guilt-tripped into doing things with them that I HATE! I don't know what to do. I don't know where to turn. I don't know who to talk to. I just want to SCREAM!!!! So now, my birthday is coming. They're going to want to celebrate with me. And Jen is planning on taking me out, because she genuinely cares about me. But the thought of doing ANYTHING gives me anxiety. I don't want to cancel on her, she wants me to feel special, but I'm freaking out. I don't want her to feel bad. I just can't do this time of year. I just can't handle the pressure and stress. I was doing so well! It's not fair!

Taking ACTION when you don't feel like it

IDG 7 Cups Community Hub / by Frankie111

56 minutes ago

Developing Gratitude

IDG 7 Cups Community Hub / by blissart

60 minutes ago

I need help regulating my emotions with my boyfriend

Relationship Stress / by marsbursss

1 hour ago

...See more I am dating someone who is the most amazing human being ever i am so happy that to be dating him. That being said, he has noticed i’ve been starting fights again recently. I’ve done this before and now where i start fights over the smallest thing. Like today we were on our morning call and he couldn’t hear me i got irritated and then i got mad when he started singing cuz i thought when he was ignoring me. It sounds dumb now but at the time I was upset. Then he said he notice that anything he does in the morning upsets me. It’s very little things like not being able to hear me, him telling me he can’t talk to me when he’s driving (the way he said, idk i’m very sensitive) and even just saying short stuff. A bit of background, growing up, half my life my dad and mom argued. I never felt heard. There was countless arguments with my dad and mom. My dad left me when i was 12 and came back when i was 15?16? But even now my dad gets mad at little things too and is yelling at my sisters when we are with him. I am a bit of a dad’s girl and look up to him too. I’ve heard this could be a reason for reacting the way I am with my boyfriend. Recently, well, actually since my dad came back, there had been arguments with my dad and mom about the bill. My dad is paying most of the bills while paying rent and my mom is only paying the light bill. My mom doesn’t clean the house and it’s mostly up to me to clean it. I haven’t been feeling the best lately so i haven’t been able to snd i feel helpless, i have to finish my schoolwork before break to graduate early, i have kittens my mom has been neglecting leaving the responsibilities on me but when i bring up giving the kittens to my dad so we can not deal with the worry of them getting ran over she gets mad at me. My dad is the only one in the family who drives. That’s what has been happening lately. But i do want to stop and not act that way towards my boyfriend as he is so kind like wow, i’ve never been treated like this or had a healthy relationship and i don’t wanna ruin it because it feels right and i just wanna be more like my bf like how he doesn’t get mad at me for little stuff and is very gentle i don’t wanna be the reason he can’t bring up stuff to me cuz i will get mad

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