I'm really upset with my wife and son right now. He's an addict and refuses to get any help beyond just not using his drug of choice. He's dragging his feet on making an appointment with an addiction counselor, won't go to meetings if I don't take him, and is still drinking and smoking pot because they aren't the drug he admits being addicted to.
We found out he had a relapse last week and I said that's it, you're going to meetings. You refuse everything else, you don't get a say this time. My wife was right there with me. We discussed it before talking to him. But today it's her turn to take him to the meeting and she sends me a pic of him golfing with his little brother. And the message is "I know it's not a meeting but this is so good for his soul". No. No it isn't!!! It's good for his current mood. Not his soul. He needs to be at those meetings. He needs to be learning to face the uncomfortable and unhappy emotions. He cant get better by playing golf! And after golf is basketball. Because instead of dealing with problems we ignore them and keep busy. Just keep playing games and all the problems cant catch us!!!
I'm so mad at both of them. And so glad I'll be at work when they get home.