How to strengthen your inner coach 💙

Hello everyone, I hope you are all doing okay.

Today, I would like to share with you something I became aware of the other day.

I started a new home project and faced some difficulties and had to realize that what I planned did not work out. All my work was for nothing, at least that is what I thought. I was frustrated and it didn't take long that I heard a voice in my head told me:

“You are doing everything wrong”

“You can’t do anything right”

“Just leave it”

This was my inner critic talking.

Luckily another voice stepped in and said:

“Remember Edison and the light bulb? How often did he try until he succeeded?”

“You are going to solve this just take your time and rethink”

Now this was my inner coach talking and a lot of what this coach told me was learned here at 7cups.

So one tool to counteract the inner critic is to develop a strong inner coach to help with the judgmental, negative and full of cognitive distortions talk from the inner critic. But how do we strengthen our inner coach?

1. Avoid using absolute words like “never, ever, always…”

2. Become aware of the way you talk to yourself. The inner critic loves to play the shame and guilt game with us, telling us “It’s always your fault”

3. Validate what you are going through

4. Practice patience, give yourself time to do things

5. Be observant and curious what is behind a feeling you have.

6. Is your anger based on sadness or fear?

7. Use encouraging self talk like “You can do this”, “You did some good things in life”

8. Practice self love because in the end, what your inner critic really needs healing

What does your inner critic say that shows they are hurting and need healing?

How strong is your inner coach and what do they do to help you maintain a healthy respect for yourself?

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