Trying to not be mad
We as a family agreed to not meet in person Thanksgiving and did a zoom meeting instead. Well my husband's mom is pushing for us to meet Christmas or go drive and see lights (thry dont wear masks) and such. We said same rules apply as Thanksgiving. I know she is sad and bored. So am I. It is just frustrating going back snd forth again.
I feel you, @goodWalker4788 - it seems everyone has a different perspective when it comes to living in this virus-driven world. If you don't feel safe, I'm hopeful your family will understand and respect your feelings on the matter. Hang in there. There will be light at the end of the tunnel very soon now.
@goodWalker4788
It's understandable to be upset when there are different views on anything, and Christmas is stressful anyway. There are so many varying rules, often made on the fly, and have changed from moment to moment and one expert to another. We were told at one point that we didn't need masks unless we could not social distance. Some are saying now that we'll all be wearing masks and social distancing...indefinitely! They keep moving the goal post. Wearing masks also can be tougher on some people ..even to breathe.
Maybe there's a way to meet in the middle so she and you (all) are happy. Since they won't wear masks and you all insist all do at all times, maybe you all could plan a brief Christmas visit to their home in masks and social distanced?..no hugging? Maybe if you keep it short, bring a yummy dish ..and/or maybe a dessert treat and gifts to leave for them to eat and open later? This is how many elderly are visiting loved ones right now, albeit they are all masked. Or you could do a Santa trip to leave things ...food, gifts, cards ..for them and wave from a distance in your own masks? Maybe she'd want to leave something for you all when you visit and you could pick up from her home when you leave your gifts.
If you don't feel comfortable with that or can't do it, then zoom, and try not to let it get to you how she feels. Easier said than done I know.
Hope all goes well. Merry Christmas!
Hi @goodWalker4788
I agree with your thinking and hard as it is, you're doing this to protect not only your family but theirs too. You'll be able to get together in 2020, so don't be forced into a situation you're not happy with<3
Lucy2
We actually all exchanged gifts thanksgiving since it was our christmas with our married kiddos. Just mailed our gifts to everyone and opened them in our zoom call. I'll let my husband make the final call since it is his mom. We might go visit with our masks on but not eat or drink things. Maybe find an online game for everyone to do on christmas day or something if they can.
@goodWalker4788
That sounds nice. It's hard to make everyone happy.
@goodWalker4788
That might be a good compromise! I appreciate all the outside the box ideas for remaining connected during these unique times. My mom is coming but now we are adjusting the flow of the holiday since she has some risks. I like the idea of a masked visit and forego food and drink!
It is just myself, husband and two dogs celebrating the holidays this year. Sadly we have no surviving parents or children to buy gifts for or make plans with. The holidays are always a challenge for those of us that do not have any family close by.
@Cubby2020 even though we have husband's parents and children. We won't see any this year. However we've not had several close family members. I lost my parents and only grandparent in December in different years. I lost an older brother in Vietnam when I was young so my parents always struggled with holidays afterwards. My husband lost his dad and brother one year and they were his besrfriends. I know lots of people struggle this time of year. I believe this year will be roughest for many.