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amiablePeace77 February 11th


What does happiness mean to you? Do you believe it is a matter of perspective?



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amiablePeace77 OP February 11th


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February 11th

@amiablePeace77 ofcourse it is subjective, for me happiness is when i get a sense of bliss and relief within while it may be something else for others.

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Tinywhisper11 February 14th

@AutisticYouth happy Valentine's day ❤ I love you ❤

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toughTiger6481 February 11th

@amiablePeace77

I totally think happiness is a matter of perspective ..........look at the simple happiness of a child  that gets washed away as they grow..... and create or told to have  bigger expectations for them to be happy....

i look around and see people who are unhappy ...........and others discount that buy questioning why.? ...  telling them..... "they have X/Y /Z and others have it worse so they should put on a smile and be happy...."  

 I just had an exhausting circle conversation with my partner as i told them " i am unhappy they do not see  or engage with me as much ...."

then they said "well they like to ignore me and watch to see if i am in a good/ happy mood before interacting"    they seemed to miss the fact this is like a dog chasing its tale getting no where and at a complete stand still....

people chase fake goal lines for happy...... "i will be happy when i have X amount of money or security" ....they reach that and the goal post moves .... now it is double the amount or what ever.....

people think others can make them happy so chase that to only find each person does not have the key to happiness either......

being happy is a  inner choice regardless of Income/  relationship status / physical appearance or other external factors .......

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amiablePeace77 OP February 14th

@toughTiger6481

Thanks for sharing your points of view with us! I always wondered how can people who live under the harshest conditions be happy whilst others living in luxury are not. Perspective matters and sometimes we might need help if our perspective is consistently negative so it can change for the better in future. 

What  you described with your husband sounds difficult. Have you tried to have a longer open talk with him or maybe even get support from a marriage counselor if you think that could work best?

Tinywhisper11 February 14th

@toughTiger6481 happy Valentine's day ❤ I love you ❤

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Tinywhisper11 February 11th

@amiablePeace77 happiness is the meaning of life ❤

And definitely all about perspective, happiness is something you can't find, hapiness is a choice you make. Let's all choose happiness ❤❤❤

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amiablePeace77 OP February 14th

@Tinywhisper11

I'm with you on this! Let's choose happiness! 😀

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Tinywhisper11 February 14th

@amiablePeace77 yaaaay ❤ happy Valentine's day ❤ I love you

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soulsings February 11th

@amiablePeace77

What does happiness mean to you? Happiness is when I feel such joy of helping others that all my problems seem insignificant in the comparison to all the suffering in this world. 

Do you believe it is a matter of perspective?  Cherishing others is the perspective that leads me to lasting happiness. 

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amiablePeace77 OP February 14th

@soulsings

Thank you for giving us all something to reflect on "Cherishing others is the perspective that leads me to lasting happiness"  

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soulsings February 14th

@amiablePeace77 you are welcome. 

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Tinywhisper11 February 14th

@soulsings happy Valentine's day ❤ I love you ❤

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soulsings February 14th

@Tinywhisper11 thank you for your kindness. Happy Valentine's Day!

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slowdecline48 February 15th

I gotta disagree with the other posts here. Yes, happiness is a matter of perspective to some extent...but.

(There's always a 'but')

How many people do you think can be happy when they're starving? How many people are basically happy after going through repeated foul abuse during childhood? I came across some evidence of that last night. I won't drop any names but I'd bet dollars to dimes the poor girl will not become a happy well-adjusted adult. Just try telling such a person to "shift his/her perspective"l so (s)he can find happiness....not likely. Not just because human brains cannot be fixed so easily, but also because it would be stunningly tone-deaf on your part.

However you define it, for the vast majority happiness is impossible to attain without having one's basic needs met. Try being happy without food, water, shelter, & with a 50-50 chance of someone trying to k!ll you when you're asleep.


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Tinywhisper11 February 15th

@slowdecline48 😞😞😞

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slowdecline48 February 15th
@Tinywhisper11 It is what it is, hun...you know who I described here. 😖 I did what I could; that's all I can do. Hopefully it will help her.
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Tinywhisper11 February 15th

@slowdecline48 I love you ❤❤

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amiablePeace77 OP February 15th

@slowdecline48

I hear you . You have a valid point that it's not always easy and sometimes almost impossible to be happy. Here are some points I like to point out:

1. People with anhedonia will find it hard to feel happiness to maintain their positive emotions 

2. When our brains have changed due to trauma it can become difficult to feel happiness

3. When basic needs are not met feeling happiness will be difficult

These are cases where we need professional support to be able to get better. For many people though changing the perspective can help. 

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Happiness is that light feeling i have without much in the back of my head.

And yes it's not all perspective. I had been in an abusive place for a few years. No matter what I did, i could not get out of the unsafe feel and fear I had. I tried a lot of things to be happy then. In vain. Once I m out of there, i m becoming like my older self now. 


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soulsings February 16th

@compassionatePomegranate5476 sorry you had experienced abuse. That sounds rough. 

Glad you are finding a lighter feeling in life. 

slowdecline48 February 16th

@compassionatePomegranate5476 Sounds rough, dear...you managed to get out. That much is right in the world.

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goodSpruce3041 February 21st

Happiness to  me means being able to support myself with what talents I have. That happiness has not yet been achieved, and I doubt it ever will.

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amiablePeace77 OP February 21st

@goodSpruce3041

Sorry to hear that you have not achieved the happiness you are looking for. Could you possibly find happiness in a different way?

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