Definitely over 50
Hi, I'm new here. I've posted in a couple places. I'm 58, the mother of 2 adult kids, and grand of 4 kids. Both my kids are successful adults.
My daughter has decided that her childhood was neglectful and abusive, and that I am toxic to her, so she has basically written me out of her life. I am forbidden to see her and her daughter. I have not ser them for about two years. This granddaughter is a high-functioning child on the autism spectrum. I am worried that she will not remember me. She is now 6 years old.
My so has three children who I do see often. They live over an hour away with their mother and often go sway to another state where my son works.
I live with my boyfriend, but am still married to my 5th husband. The 3 of us have a unique relationship, as we all get along wonderfully. I cook meals for my husband, and my BF and I deliver them twice a week. I speak on the phone to my husband daily, as he is my best friend. More to come about that.
I am depressed and anxious, have PTSD, and obviously have no.problem sharing.
Thanks for having me.
@philosophicalAcai7803
Hello,
I know it is frustrating and sad to have kids remember their childhood differently and have had some things my kids decide some things were worse then they really were etc. I do not think it is good idea for any person to cut off people especially grandparents unless joint counseling or therapy was involved.
Glad you can be friends with husband and a good relationship even if the other part is over and enjoy your sons family because grand kids seem to grow faster then the kids did
Thanks. That helps. I know I want the best mother. I wouldn't be getting any awards. I didn't know it at the time, but I was suffering from PTSD. My mother is a licensed social worker and she should have been able to help, but she also has turned against me and had enabled my daughter. My daughter is using words and phrases that my mother uses.
But I am trying to get on with my life.
@philosophicalAcai7803
you are not alone and when using phrases and words from books or professional it sounds like she wants a excuse for something she is not happy with in her life.
I've had problems with some of my kids too. Family can end up in the worst beef stew of mixed emotions. Sometimes you just have to breathe and be thankful for what you do have, instead of concentrating on what you don't. Be the best YOU that you can be right now and find your own ways to be happy. We can't make anyone change their mind.
Years ago before my mother died, she sided with my ex-husband which was real bizarre. But life goes on. I mention that because I know how it feels to have your mother do hurtful things behind your back. All I could do is what I said to you, I concentrated on where I was and did the best I could.
Thanks for sharing.