No hope left

I'm sorry you're feeling this way, but there is always hope or I would've given up a long time ago too. The world may seem cold at times, but there are compassionate souls out there. People like you and I who have big hearts. Perhaps you don't have enough support in your life?

Life is a series of ups and downs, like a Rollercoaster. I always say this, but it's true. Things aren't always good, and things aren't always bad either. You're going through the down part right now, but you can go up from there. Just hang on and set small, achievable goals towards improving your quality of life. That's what I'm doing. It can and will get better 🙂

Hey man your words really hit home for me. I don’t deal with exactly the same problems as you but we do share a lot in common. I doubt myself everyday due to all the mistakes I’ve made and my social anxiety greatly inhibits my everyday life that COULD be much more enjoyable. I’m currently a work in progress because I know for a fact that I am no where near the finish line, but if there’s one thing I know for sure it’s that these feelings are temporary despite all the thoughts claiming otherwise. It’s much easier said than done (I know from experience) but try picturing yourself as the person you want to be. Keep this picture in mind and let it motivate you. Allow yourself to become to version of you that you really want to be by slowly taking the proper steps. Also try appreciating the progress you’ve made because no goal is reached easily as there are always obstacles in life that try to bring us down. I watch this guy on YouTube called Greg doucette and he preaches how we should get halfway there when having this picture perfect version of ourselves in mind. This idea keeps me motivated to keep fighting because although we may never reach that perfect version of ourselves, we can’t forget about the process we have made and will make. But yeah man I agree with you this world sucks. You can’t let that bring you down, you can’t let what anyone else’s thoughts, actions, or beliefs bring you down because those heartless compassionless and soulless thoughts/actions/beliefs are exactly what keep them going despite what anyone else thinks about them. Just keep going man, don’t lose hope in yourself and really TRY to help yourself because it’s no body else’s responsibility. I believe in you man. I struggle with a lot myself and writing this has helped me realize what I need to work on because I know I’m not perfect, no body is. I recommend you start journaling your thoughts on a daily basis, it’ll help bring light towards all your problems and it’ll reveal how you can fix them. We all have the power from within to live beautiful lives, we just really have to make the changes necessary. No ifs ands or buts. You got this bro <3

@silasMarner Hi. Some of what you’ve said hit home. But I would ask you to be open to the possibility that you could be happy despite what happened to you, and especially despite what you think is ahead of you. What happened to you was real, but it’s effect on you can lighten. The past is not a good predictor of the future. I hear you saying something like, the past robbed me of skills and strength I need right now. Plus, I’m 40. Plus my past shows me the map of the future. The thing sandwiched between the past and future is you, here, now at 40 - and that is the factual part. The stuff behind of and in front of you is an illusion of sorts. This isn’t a criticism of you, it’s baked into what it means to be human, we all fall into this illusion. Two books were really helpful when my past was aflame like a burning bridge, and my future had only the slightest glimmer of hope. I’d like to say it was the worst time of my life, but I had a couple more like it. Yet, the skills I learned from those books is actually what made the other tough times manageable. I hope you can find something like that, that takes you out of the current crisis and becomes a sort of armor for subsequent hard times. Here are the books (both available as print, electronic, and audio form). “You can be happy no matter what,” by psychologist, Dr Richard Carlson. “Feeling Good”, by psychiatrist, Dr. David Burns. You can google Dr Burns and his book title and a TED talk should come up in the results. It’s only 20 minutes but gives a really good overview of what you would find in his book.

I'm so sorry life isn't that great for you as it is for everyoone else around you. I'm not a certified person nor am I in your shoes rn but one thing i wanna say is find your value away from all these toxic people you've been surrounded with. Don't let their definitions of you define you bcz you're not what people tell you. Many times in life we don't get what we wanted or even the love and care we've always craved for but life is so much more than just these things. Most of the times when something bad happens we usually get reminded of all the bad things that happened to us since childhood and the past weighs us down but what we don't understand is it's already in the past all that pain all those sufferings are no more and the present is what matters. Make your present beautiful by just being you and by taking care of yourself that has endured all this for so long. You deserve all the love and care in this world just don't expect it from the people around you. Love yourself first and don't giveup on life bcz your life matters❤️