I feel like the sun of my issues -new here and overwhelmed-
Hello everyone,
im completely new to this app and community, feeling a little bit lost but I thought it would be a good idea to make a post in order to get started.
ive been to therapy for a couple years in the past and discovered that I have a childhood trauma that’s been all about abandonment and not feeling validated enough, leading to me being. Haughty functioning adult who’s unable to accept and love himself.
that part that bugs me the most though is that when I feel triggered or sad or upset I start to seek validation, support, care, attention…from others. It’s like a quick fix and I perceive it as very unhealthy. It has also affected my relationship in a very negative way and while at first it gives me a little bit of mitigation it causes me to feel sad and guilty afterwards, just increasing the suffering.
im trying to find a way out of this vicious cycle but I find it hard to even fully comprehend it. Guess this is a bit of a venting post along with an intro…and a hope that I’m not alone with this sort of messy struggle.
Welcome @GalacticForest
Sorry you are going through so much. It’s really positive that you have reached out and are talking through your issues. I can identify with a lot of what you are experiencing so you are most definitely not alone. This is a great place to get some peer support from sympathetic and understand people going through similar situations.
I hope you find some relief in venting here and less alone knowing there are others going through similar experiences. Keep moving forward and trying to break the cycles as you go… it’s a messy struggle that’s for sure and I’m in the same situation… but we need to own our messy struggle and try and make the best of it. Wishing you the best of luck my friend.