Good listener, not good friend
I've always been able to listen patiently to others but I struggle with all the other social requirements that would make me a good friend by normal standards. So I find myself in my forties, no in person friends, and constantly searching for meaningful online connections to fill the void. I don't really get lonely, not in the way most people mean that. It would just be nice to feel supported at times.
I would describe myself similarly. I only have the ability to truly focus on my tasks at hand. So …I don’t usually take the time to be a good friend. When I do have time - I love to just sit and listen to friends. I tell myself that someday I’ll be a better friend….but it may never be in the cards. Currently I’m content as is though.
I am not sure I ever had true friends. Not even in grade school. I have coworkers and associates. I am amazed I have girlfriend. I only see her once a week. I will be 46 in 2 weeks and to me it's just another day of the week. My parents don't even remember my birthday or age. All I do is work and sleep and watch tv. I do miss the regular touch and hug from other people.
I have "Friends" that are what I'd describe as casual even though some have been friends for years and I bet none of them really know me and that's because I don't allow them to. I'm guarded and listen more then I talk. Not really a people Person and find making small talk excruciating. I chat better to people online that I don't know as feel I'm not being looked at and therfore judged. I generally solve my own problems lol.
I feel this way too. I can listen to people and care about them. But I don’t have the social skills to meet new friends. I have a very lonely job and feel like I’m losing my looks. If you want someone to chat with, I would be happy to chat with you. I could use a friend just like you.
Hi. How has your experience been with 7 cups? Im new to the app, too. Trying to figure out how this works. What activities do you enjoy?