Ex and I were coparenting but now it's just me
So we have 2 bouncing boys. We were coparenting for around 3 years. But as of March of this year, he stopped picking up the kids. He did keep them for Mother's day week, but other than than I have been keeping them. I am so tired and I was/maybe still am frustrated that I can't relay on him. He is going through depression and something else I have no clue about, to the point he didn't want to go to his home at night. I found him walking around at night, and he just doesn't want to go home at night. I understand that he is really going through it. I just feel so tired and exhausted and my work schedule is out of wack, I hope I don't get fired. I'm stressed out. I have PMDD, which I have had forever so I get depressed at least once a month. I know he is going through worse, I just need to get this off my chest and I feel horrible for complaining when he is doing his best.
@CrayolaMoon909 You sound like an understanding, compassionate person. I'm glad you are empathetic to what your ex is going through right now. However, it obviously puts extra strain and stress on you.
I know that when I don't have any alone time, I get cranky! Do you have any supportive people nearby, like a relative, friend or neighbor who could take the kids for a few hours, so that you can have a small break?
If it's possible, I would also try to encourage your ex to get professional help. It sounds like what he is going through is seriously affecting his life, his relationships, and that he is not at peace - which can be a dangerous place to be.
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I of course don’t know the context or flow or dynamic I guess? But what if you slowly talked to him him in a compassionate way of your small stresses and let him know he can talk about with you if you want to help him yourself to get him into the mood of expressing himself but also you don’t need to if it’s too hard on you I feel just someone showing me that they’ve opened up to me helps me open up as a guy slowly
@CrayolaMoon909 hey there would love to help you inbox me love to be here for you. I also have a daughter myself 👋