Heartbreak
I started seeing a guy around 6 months back. We matched online but i didn't think much of it as I felt we didn't have much in common. But he pursued me hard and turned out to be this amazing, sweet, witty guy. Couple of months into dating he started having money problems and I was happy to help him out because of the emergency situation initially. But slowly he started expecting me to cover all his expenses. His rent, his food, his entertainment, everything. I was also exclusively paying for all our dates. It started making me uncomfortable and I told him I wasn't ready to take on such financial responsibility so early in the relationship. I also knew his parents were well off and can easily help him out. He never paid me back all the money I did give him. And last week he broke up with me saying he can never forgive me for being so selfish. I feel devastated
I'm not a selfish person I just wasn't ready to cover all his finances 3 months into dating. Anyway he has blocked me everywhere now and I feel so confused about what happened. Any advice on what to do next?
@helpfulVase1706
Do you think he did on purpose ?
It is odd and not a good look to ask a gf very very early in dating to ask for money to pay his expenses if in fact his parents are well off. maybe when you paused on paying he is off looking for another person who may be willing to pay his way. blocking you might be more about not paying back the "loan"
@toughTiger6481 well yes that could be the case. But I'm not sure. He pursued me so hard. It's stupid someone would go to so much trouble just to get some money. Plus I'm not an idiot, no matter how much I liked the guy what made him think I would empty my ban account for him. Idk am just very confused and hurting right now :(
I know when we go into a situation we feel confused and upset ... it makes no sense
To you and me it seems like a lot of effort for small payouts but to people who are users this is just another day.
Being taken for any amount can happen to Anyone regardless of intellect.
Maybe it was all a misunderstanding but in that case a person should feel like they will pay you money back and understand if you say "sorry i can not cover this or that" .... but getting angry and ghosting Sounds like he saw he was not getting more $$ from you........ another way they may have had a person say "OK" to helping them out more to smooth things over.
I agree it is amazing to me when people think a good nature person would be willing to go broke for a possible relationship.
This guy was taking advantage of you and you’re lucky he broke up rather than take further advantage of your. He’s not worth your time. If he contacts you again, I’d say, completely ignore him. Don’t engage at all.
Sorry you went through this difficult situation.
Feel free to reach out if you want to talk.