Life
New here & feeling very confused.
I’ll start by saying I was in a 10 year relationship, although we had a lot of financial difficulties we got on well like best friends but I felt like that was all it was in the end. He didn’t treat me badly at all, although we obviously had our arguments he did love me. I called off our engagement 6 months ago and moved out and have met somebody new who makes me incredibly happy. But I can’t stop the feeling of sadness. I feel like I am grieving him. I don’t hate him and I feel so bad for leaving him heartbroken when he’s such a good person. I guess I feel bad for doing what I needed to do to be happy. I don’t know if that even makes sense. Although I’m happier in my new relationship I just feel incredibly guilty as he did absolutely nothing wrong and I couldn’t give him much of an explanation as to why I was leaving other than I wasn’t happy and we felt like friends rather than in a relationship even though we tried to address it many times.
i don’t even know why im writing this, I just needed to get it off my chest.
Breakups, especially after a long relationship, are never simple, even when you know it’s the right thing to do for yourself. You’re going through a lot, and it’s normal to feel a mix of sadness, guilt, and even confusion about your own emotions. It sounds like you did what was best for you, and I can tell you care deeply about the person you were with, which is why you’re feeling so conflicted. Grieving the relationship doesn’t mean you didn’t make the right choice, but it does mean you’re processing the loss of something that was once meaningful to you.