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mkatta August 3rd

I am late 20s and have ZERO friends.  My family do not like me. I get bullied at work. Everyone thinks that I'm weird and boring. 

What's the point of life. I have no interest in traveling, I have no social skills, and I'm not even taken seriously in the workplace. I feel like I have no purpose. I've never been in a relationship. I spend almost all my time alone. 

Can anyone else relate


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bestTalker9406 August 3rd

I can't totally relate but I do feel lonely even when there are people around. Don't be too harsh on yourself... everything happens for a good reason is the mantra I keep saying to myself to make me relaxed . Every person is unique, you be you.

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mkatta OP August 3rd

@bestTalker9406

I agree, but it’s hard to keep being myself when everyone dislikes me for who I am. I try to people-please too much and it backfires. I come across as annoying. I feel like an alien 

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bestTalker9406 August 3rd

Same here, I people please a lot too... feels like we keep begging and get nothing in return. It's been 4 months and I'm trying to accept situations...it's really tough and I'm sure it will take a lot of time and maybe I will still feel lonely, I don't know but let's live in the present...eat your favourite food, watch a show, dance even if you don't know how to, paint, read anything...I know it takes great strength to pull yourself everyday...but that's what we gotta do, have faith in oneself...give what you want to give to people but you should always be your first priority. If they don't like you, don't worry, you like yourself....I know this might not help currently but I believe a few kind words do go a long way.


I will pray for you to be happy.

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mkatta OP August 3rd

@bestTalker9406

thank you for the support :) I appreciate it. I’m trying to be happier 

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IdeasOfReference August 3rd

@mkatta

I see you
wfwAFEVEACAIOJNC August 3rd

@mkatta you're welcome to talk to me
BlueSoul2290 August 3rd

@mkatta

Hi, thanks for sharing how you’re feeling with us.
I can relate to some of what you’re going through but I'm in my thirties, So I understand how tough loneliness and feeling undervalued can be. It really can make you question everything.

but I believe you can create positive change, even with small steps. Finding something that makes you happy or fulfilled doesn’t have to be a huge effort. Trying out a new hobby or volunteering for a cause you care about can make a big difference. These activities might also help you connect with others who share your interests and build new friendships, which could help you improve your social skills.

I understand that it might feel like these suggestions won't make a difference. I feel the same way when I get similar suggestions But don't give up and try.


at  in the end, if you feel like talking to anyone, don't hesitate to contact me or any other listener here that you feel comfortable talking to. Talking about these feelings can help alleviate them and also help you think and find a new perspective.
I hope you start feeling better soon. 🍀🙏



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mkatta OP August 3rd

@BlueSoul2290

@BlueSoul2290 I have volunteered at numerous places and worked at “meaningful” jobs. But I struggle to form connections with people. I even got bullied at my last jobs. And they were at a hospital and then at a church diocese!! So these are supposed to be helpful and non-judgemental people. 


The sad part is that I enjoyed the work I was doing. But people always end up thinking I’m weird and bullying me out. It’s not everyone. But if one person really dislikes me, they can usually convince a group of their friends to turn on me too. I wish I knew what I was doing wrong. I wish I could just have basic communication skills. 

Thank you for the reply and suggestions. I keep trying to put myself out there, but getting such negative reactions from people just causes me to isolate and hide away again. I think people assume me being quiet and reserved = me intentionally being rude. I just have to keep trying. I hope things improve for you too. Getting older scares me, since I’ll be thirty in a few years and feel more alone than ever in my life

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BlueSoul2290 August 3rd

@mkatta

I completely understand what you're going through. I myself am somewhat of an introvert, quiet and reserved, and I also talk very little, so I've also been on the receiving end of similar comments at work. Once, a coworker said to someone else about me that if I keep living this way, I'm going to develop autism. 😂

It's great that you've tried volunteering; it shows you're a kind person. I think you should focus on the positive people who treat you well. If there's even one person at work or in your volunteer place who's kind to you, that's a start. Over time, there might be more. At least, you won't feel so alone.

But I also understand how negative reactions can affect you. I know it's not easy to simply ignore them and their impact on your feelings. I'm not sure how someone becomes immune to such negativity; I still get affected by it. But perhaps if there's someone at work or in your volunteer place who you can talk to, that might help alleviate some of these feelings. If not, maybe you could talk to a friend or any good listener here. It also might help.

Also, have you considered trying mindfulness techniques or journaling to help manage overwhelming thoughts and feelings? These can be powerful tools for self-care.

finally please be gentle with yourself. and remember you are doing your best in a difficult situation.
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Rishav6286 August 19th

i would like to help u u can connect with me in social media
lyxi August 20th

I can't entirely relate. but yeah, I feel you. I had a toxic terrible relationship I wish never happened. I have some friends, yeah, but I still feel lonely among them. I imagine that you might feel worthless or something like that based on what you're writing, I'm really sorry for that. I'd gladly listen to you if you'd like to vent/talk to someone new.

Luca
humorousClementine795 September 8th

@mkatta I read all. You just described me. I know the stress and the loneliness feeling. But trust yourself you deserve to live a fully happy life just be kind and strong.
Ark2783 September 24th

@mkatta I can absolutely relate 
raspberryBranch1257 September 25th

hey girlie, I can absolutely relate with you and I understand how agonising daily life feels, because I'm going through the same thing and life feels of no point, but girlie, you need to remember, you're here, you're breathing, even if you don't see it right now, you do have a purpose and the very presence of you on this earth, it definitely means something. i understand how hard it is to love yourself when you feel like nobody loves you, but, you can't control the fact that people don't love you, but here's a good news, what you can control is that you love yourself, it won't be an easy process but you can absolutely achieve it girlie, and you know, being alone, doing things alone and loving yourself might seem scary, but here's a good news, people who have achieved this, are the most powerful people in the world and everybody are afraid of lone wolfs, don't ever give up on yourself girlie, you are the one with you till the end and keep working on yourself, for you! and the person you wanna make proud one day, YOU!!
brightRaspberries2662 September 29th

Hi DAE, i can relate you very well. I would like to be your friend.

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