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General Support / by lightHuman1618

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...See more My husband and I have been married for 14 years and we’ve been through a lot in that time. We have 2 kids with additional needs and life is busy and hard work. We live in a regional area and he travels 1.5hrs drive away to the city to his dream job. I work 2 casual jobs locally and do everything else for me and the kids. We had a big fight on the weekend (one of many) and I’m not sure if I can recover from it again. I have no family support I am exhausted and overwhelmed by the end of the day and feel so unappreciated. The only place I feel safe is in my bed on my side. On Saturday he took the kids out for a few hours and as soon as he got home he went straight to the bedroom and got into bed on my side of the bed without a word to me. I was annoyed as he didn’t communicate with me whatsoever about the outing or how he was feeling and just took over my safe space and expected me to take over care of the kids immediately as “he’d done it all day”. I did raise my voice which was not ok but I was so triggered that he completely ignored me and expected me to just take over while he relaxed in the only place I feel comfortable and safe in the house!! I have a lot of trauma around feeling safe as I was raised by a narcissistic mother and I’m doing a lot of work on healing, one of the ways is creating a safe space for myself, which I have explained to him. He never makes me feel heard or seen and therefore safe. He stayed in the bedroom for the next 4 hours and then when he emerged he screamed his head off at me for they way I spoke to him when he came home and went straight to the bedroom. He said he can do whatever he wants he doesn’t have to ask permission to rest. I apologised for the way I spoke but tried to explain why and he just shouted me down yelling about how I give him nothing and I’m always feeling sick or tired or going on about some problem he doesn’t want to hear about, that’s why he doesn’t listen, and that’s how he’ll continue. He said he wants to sleep in separate rooms and doesn’t want to talk about it has basically just ignored me since. I’m not sure what to do now. I’m so hurt and over being unseen, unheard and unappreciated for everything I do for my family. I’m not sure I can come back from this with him. He’s made it pretty clear that he doesn’t want anything else to do with me. I feel so alone. Any suggestions about what I should do next?

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