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Anxiety about my marriage
Relationship Stress / by zimmy
Last post
 December 27th, 2020
...See more Hi friends. Ive been married for a couple of years, we've been together for 3. My husband is in the military and I feel that he's in a very dark place right now. He got hurt doing his job, and hes in the midst of medically discharging from the army (he's leaving because of his injury). He has awful nightmares every night, and we haven't had sex in months. In general I feel like our relationship is still strong, we've never been very sex based. We moved across the country to where he was stationed, and I havent been able to find work since we've moved. Public transportation sucks here, and we only have one car. If I were to uber to work it would be around $40 to get somewhere and $40 to get back. So I'd basically be making no money. He's made a handful of comments about me getting a job, and we've had talks about me working but we always end up agreeing that I wouldn't make enough for it to be worth it. I actually love working and it kills me that I've got nothing to do. So now my mom is visiting, and she's making me feel really anxious about the situation. She makes it sound like my husband resents me because he works and I don't. And she told me that it's not good that we aren't having sex. My husband's injury makes it difficult for him to even walk around, but she said that's an excuse and that really he just doesn't want to have sex with me. Help?? I am so anxious lol
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Feeling useless and helpless
Depression Support / by zimmy
Last post
 August 16th, 2018
...See more I feel like I'm ruining everything. One thing after another just back to back. Big things, little things, even the good things aren't good. I feel absolutely awful and I'm trying so hard, i really am trying my best. I'm trying so hard and nothing is working.
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Panic attack from fear of falling, followed by stressful situation
Anxiety Support / by zimmy
Last post
 September 6th, 2018
...See more Today is my fiances birthday, and I wanted to do something special for him. So I gathered two of his closest friends and we went to a quarry. I have a fear of falling, but he really wanted me to jump in with him so I decided to try it because I wanted him to have the best possible time. I eventually did jump in, from the smallest ledge I could find and the sensation of falling caused me to be filled with a lot of fear and I had a panic attack in the water. I started worrying that the water might be toxic, or a fish might touch me, or I could scrape a leg on something and get cut. Then my breathing got super messed up and I felt like I wasn't going to make it back to the rocks because they looked like they were shrinking away. My fiance swam me back to shore but it took a really long time to recover from the panic attack. I was talking to him about his birthday later, just asking if he had fun and stuff and he said that it wasn't that great but thats fine because he wasn't expecting a good birthday anyways. I felt so bad, I know I can't make him have fun but I really wanted this to be a good day for him. As we were walking back to the car we heard alarms going off, and the car was having issues. We troubleshot it for a couple of hours but I just got progressively more anxious, and mosquitos were biting me (I'm very allergic) and on top of this it's in a very bad neighborhood. I'm horribly anxious and just want validation on my fears
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