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willowtree94
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Losing my hair and anxiety
Anxiety Support / by willowtree94
Last post
 August 20th, 2016
...See more This summer I've noticed I'm losing a significant amount of hair - I have at least one bald patch and quite a lot comes out when I wash my hair. Now I don't know the exact cause, because it might be due to prolonged stress (just finished my undergrad and had a very stressful year), illness, or it could be a hormonal or thyroid related issue. Hopefully I'll find out soon when I see doctors, but in the meantime I'm feeling stressed about it and hating washing my hair because it's a constant reminder. And that's probably making it even worse. Has anyone else had to deal with this? :(
I don't know what's my fault and what isn't
Anxiety Support / by willowtree94
Last post
 August 1st, 2016
...See more I try and be really proactive about my anxiety in my relationship and work out what I can do better. I'm constantly trying to work on it and not let it hold me back. But I feel overwhelmed by the sheer number of issues I seem to have. Basically what happens is that I speak to my partner about an issue, or something I'd like her to do differently, but after some talk about it I tend to realise (or so it seems) that it's probably my fault. A frequent example is that I start missing my partner more and feeling somewhat neglected (we're long distance) but I usually end up thinking that it's just me being needy. I end up backtracking, withdrawing what I asked her to do and saying I'll be better instead. Naturally this confuses her. She doesn't like when I backtrack in this way because in her words it weakens her trust in me and she doesn't know what's something she needs to work on and what isn't. And I understand that, I do, but at the same time I'm not doing it deliberately. I don't set out to have a conversation and realise it's my fault. It just happens. Now the real issue is, I don't know ​if it's my fault for sure. I'm sure at least some of it is but I don't think she's helping the situation very much either; but if that's so, idk what I'd prefer. My confidence feels so shot down by now; I don't trust any of my thoughts. I wish I had a therapist to talk to but I can't get that in place just yet. I have no idea what's anxiety and what isn't here.
Keep worrying I'm a burden on my gf
Anxiety Support / by willowtree94
Last post
 July 31st, 2016
...See more We're long distance and she's currently super busy over the summer, so contact hasn't been great lately. Whenever we do talk I worry so much that I'm distracting her or taking her away from something else I can't relax and enjoy it lately. I spend a lot of the conversation in a state of anxiety unless I know for sure she's not doing anything else besides speaking to me. We've talked/fought about it a bit lately because realistically there's not much more she can do, yet I still feel this way. I hate feeling this needy, and I keep needing reassurance. The worst thing is knowing I'm probably not making our conversations that fun as a result so she's even less likely to want to talk to me now.
Anxiety, perfectionism and worry, oh my!
Anxiety Support / by willowtree94
Last post
 April 12th, 2015
...See more Let's see, what can I pull out about my life... I'm 21 years old, currently studying at university. I heard about this site a long while ago, but only just came to it the other day after a little meltdown after getting a less-than-great grade (by my standards) on a paper the other day. My whole future felt like it was coming down around me which in retrospect was a pretty big overreaction - anxiety in a nutshell... Anyway, I was Googling ways to find people to talk to, as I was alone at the time and tired of feeling anxious, and found my way here. Still not actually spoken to anyone yet, but small steps, right?! That meltdown about the paper is pretty much me to be honest. My standards and pressure I put on myself are far too high and cause me a lot of anxiety. And when I actually feel anxiety I have a tendency to rely on others to pull me out instead of trying to do it myself, or I avoid the things that cause it :| Especially through my girlfriend. I put upon her far too much with my issues and although she's incredibly helpful and kind, I definitely need to expand my support system. I think I've been on an upwards path since being diagnosed with anxiety (when I was about 17). I've managed to do things I never thought I could. However, there's still a long way to go... I really want to get to a stage where I stop fearing my anxiety, and learn to live with being uncomfortable sometimes. In any case, I'm feeling surprisingly optimistic today, but who knows how long that'll last! :)
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