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vanita66
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Because of toxic person , situationship , trapped me in emotional drama
Anxiety Support / by vanita66
Last post
 August 20th
...See more It's perplexing to see how people tend to reappear in our lives only after we've finally learned to adapt and move forward. They emerge from the shadows, making their presence known, as if to remind us that they still exist. But when we need them the most, they vanish into thin air, leaving us with just a whisper of their existence. It's as if they're playing a game of hide and seek, where we're left searching for answers that never come. This has been my experience with someone for the past three years. Despite my efforts to distance myself, they continue to resurface, only to disappear again when I need them most. They've made it a habit to regularly text me, making me feel like I'm still a part of their life, even though they're not invested in mine. It's an emotional trap that I've fallen into, where I find myself thinking about them more than I should, and less about my own well-being. I know I should break free from this toxic cycle, but it's hard to let go when someone has a hold on your emotions. I need to remind myself that their behavior is not my responsibility, and that I deserve better than to be treated like a yo-yo, constantly being pulled in and pushed away. I don't understand why people do this. When we adjust and move on with our lives, they suddenly show their presence. Then, when we think of them, they'll message or call us, but when I need them, they're unavailable. One person has been doing this to me for three years, and because of them, I've failed 5 times in my exam . Despite blocking them, they've called me 26-40 times, saying they can't live without my texts. But they remain secretive about themselves and don't think about me at all. They've emotionally trapped me, making me think less about myself and more about them subconsciously. I know they're a manipulative person, and I shouldn't bother with them, but they've regularly texted me for three years, making it a habit. When I try to maintain distance, they'll call, message, and emotionally trap me. They'll message me on their own terms and ignore me or give diplomatic answers when I try to reach out."
Toxic father and step mother
Family & Caregivers / by vanita66
Last post
 June 20th
...See more I'm the eldest daughter of my family going to be 24 next month on 6th , it's all started when my mother died in 2015 . I faced so many challenges like my father became an alcoholic addiction and my relatives manipulated and brainwashed him totally towards me , he comes abused me everytime , saying hurtful things and a lot. But in recent years my father got married second time in 2022, and my step mom is like same as relative.  At present, still my father is an alcoholic addiction  Today what happened like, she always tries to look for a way to hurt me and if I don't react then she tries to manipulate my father but the thing is today the limit was crossed, I'm unable to have strength to bearing this much pain in my chest it's affecting my day today life  I'm still a student and also I have no one to share , not even friends I don't have friends, family, not sister too  When my father was drunk I hardly try to not to face my father cause if I'm facing him , he will more became aggressive try to harm me  But step mother is saying that you have to go to visit your father  She's manipulating my father that " see yours daughter atleast not giving you a cup of glass water and all " like that  Even many more like this , and father is just abusing even he slapped me .  When I take stand on myself step mother is just raising voice upon me and provoking my father more and more . Even I do everything in perfect manner, response everything but stills my father abusing a lot on daily basis , I don't have strength to bear it. I can't even take stand on myself , I'm still student, unemployed and this thing is continuing on daily basis.  I don't know what to do ? I cried a lot  I feel so hurt this traumatic experience is involving in my day to day life like studies , sleeping disorder, depression and many more  Please what to do? I'm unable to see the future of my life....!! Please help me regarding this ...!!  It's being affecting my brain , and mental health ..!!
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