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PathStep 12 Compassion hearts36 Forum posts9 Forum upvotes9 Current upvotes9 Age GroupAdult Last activeJanuary, 2022 Member sinceSeptember 18, 2021
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Partner Who is “Too Nice”
Relationship Stress / by underthetides
Last post
 October 4th, 2021
...See more Hey, guys! So this guy and I have feelings for each other, and he told me he has never been in a relationship before. He said multiple girls have told him he’s “too nice”. I don’t want to ask him to elaborate on it in case it makes him uncomfortable. I’m just wondering if that’s a thing? Like do people actually not like others because they’re too nice? Or is it something deeper, like how niceness can be too much or how some ppl prefer “bad boys”? Idk I’m just really confused, and I’d like to know if this is a red flag before we get into a relationship. Thank you!
Scared About Date; TW: trafficking, r*pe
Anxiety Support / by underthetides
Last post
 September 25th, 2021
...See more I made a post about this a few days ago, but my anxiety has gotten worse about it. I’m going on a date today with a guy I met on a dating site. His picture was verified that it was him on the app, and I google reverse image searched it. He’s really kind to me. But he looks a little older than what he says he is, and I just keep thinking that something bad will happen to me when I meet with him. My anxiety keeps bringing my mind to me being trafficked or kidnapped. Or he abuses me in some way. I’m just really scared, and I can’t stop worrying. If you could try to help me in any possible way, I’d appreciate it.
Stepping Outside My Comfort Zone… Now What?!
Anxiety Support / by underthetides
Last post
 October 7th, 2021
...See more I was in a 5-month LDR with my first boyfriend, and I have been upset about it ever since January when he broke up with me. I’m a lot better now, so I finally decided to download a few dating apps. Past me would’ve never done this, and even if she did, she would be too scared to even swipe-right on someone, let alone message them! But I have… for multiple guys! I’m proud of myself for doing so, even if it’s just baby steps. Anyway, at the moment I’m talking to 2 guys. One of them asked me out yesterday, and I lied and said I was busy. But it was me who asked him if Friday would work better. I kind of hoped he would say no, but he said yes. This is all so new to me! I’ve only ever met my ex once IRL, and now I’m at this stage? The main thing I’m anxious about is him not being who he says he is and then something bad happens to me. I’m also nervous just about being nervous when I meet with him. I’m scared that I’ll just be super awkward! I try telling myself it isn’t the end of the world, and if he really is a bad person… at least I overcame my anxiety. So, I’m still not 100% sure I will go through with it, but I can give updates if someone wants. Sorry this is long, but as for the 2nd guy, he’s really flirty. Like REALLY. he keeps calling me cute and compliments me, and it almost makes me tear up because I haven’t been treated this way in so long. I almost forgot how beautiful I really am to others. Anyway, if you’ve made it this far, thanks for listening! If you’d like to give me any feedback or kind words, thatd be awesome! TLDR; went on dating app, got asked out, am scared to go, being complimented for the first time in a while has got me all messed up
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