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[TW] Difficulties in speaking up for myself
Trauma Support / by turquoiseBranch8244
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June 17th, 2023
...See more Hello everyone, I have CPTSD from my abusive mom. Whenever I tried to tell her how I felt or what I thought, she dismissed them or if she felt unpleasantness, she would physically abuse me so I stopped talking. Now, in real life, when there is a conflict or when I feel unpleasantness, I either shut down or run away from the conversation, situation or the person. This way, I am not able to maintain any relationship... I am wondering if it is possible to do some practice, with some pretend scenarios, in this safe place. Could someone help me to practice on how I could speak up for myself? With love, Flora
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Triggers are brain's effort to make sense of the world.
Trauma Support / by turquoiseBranch8244
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November 25th, 2022
...See more What we feel, see, hear, smell during trigger, they are only information for us so we could explain, well, us.
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What happened to me?
Trauma Support / by turquoiseBranch8244
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November 19th, 2022
...See more When something unpleasant happened, I always ask myself "What is wrong with me?" But instead of asking myself that, I have learnt to ask myself this instead: "What happened to me?" This shifts the perspective right away. After asking myself this several times in a row "What happened to me?" I feel so much better. I do not consider myself a problem anymore. It is what happened to me was the problem and I cannot control what happened to me! Especially when I was a kid!!!
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Create Opportunities for Change
Trauma Support / by turquoiseBranch8244
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November 5th, 2022
...See more Quote from Outgrowing the Pain It happened, it was painful, it cannot be undone. It has predisposed you to certain vulnerabilities, but you can make positive changes. You survived the abuse by developing good survival skills. You now need to replace those protective skills with responsive behaviours. It is not enough to understand why you may be shy, get threatened, or tolerate abusive relationships; you must now create opportunities for change.
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Please Hear What I'm Not Saying (Part 1)
Trauma Support / by turquoiseBranch8244
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October 26th, 2022
...See more by Charles C. Finn Don't be fooled by me. Don't be fooled by the face I wear. For I wear a mask, a thousand masks, masks that I'm afraid to take off, and none of them is me. Pretending is an art that's second nature with me, but don't be fooled. For God's sake don't be fooled. I give you the impression that I'm secure, that all is sunny and unruffled with me, within as well as without, that confidence is my name and coolness my game, that the water's calm and I'm in command, and that I need no one. But don't believe me. My surface may seem smooth but my surface is my mask, ever-varying and ever-concealing. Beneath lies no complacence. Beneath lies confusion and fear and aloneness. But I hide this. I don't want anybody to know it.
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