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Questioning whether I made the right decision, or not.
Relationship Stress / by tallWatermelon5287
Last post
 January 12th, 2020
...See more Hi. I recently walked away from my girlfriend, and am still questioning whether or not it was the right thing to do. We had been dating for about 3 months by then. We both felt butterflies, cute, etc. Just around Thanksgiving everything started turning south. She had given me an apartment key, without me asking her. I had transitioned from a night shift job to a first shift job, in order to be able to spend more time together. I had spent about 2 weeks at her house, with her and her daughter. When out of the blue she said she needed space and time. Her ex, whom she hadn't been seeing for over a year, and her baby daddy, was still in the picture. Regardless of him starting a new relationship himself. To make things more complicated, my ex was "married" to her "wife". I started to feel more and more unwanted, unloved, and depressed. It went from seeing one another regularly to every other day, to weekends to not all. I kept asking if I had something wrong. Her response at one point was, " why do you keep asking me that shit"? All I heard from her was my ex this, my wife that. When I brought up a future, it shifted from me talking about us, to her talking about "I can do that...., I can buy my own..." Etc. Not to mention that there were times where I would not hear from her for hours at a time via text messages. The last few times I did have a brief chance to talk to her about my feelings and emotions, it resulted in me being told that I'm clingy, whiny, mopey, etc
Red flags all around?
Relationship Stress / by tallWatermelon5287
Last post
 December 31st, 2019
...See more About 3 weeks ago I walked away from my girlfriend of 3 months. The first month and a half was nice. All lovey-dovey, etc. Testing the waters. Unfortunately, just after Thanksgiving everything went south. She seemed distant and cold, and according to her me staying at her house for a lengthy period of time was too much. Though both of us went to work, on similar shifts. Then the excuse came that she needed her Space. Instead of seeing one another daily, it first went to every other day, to once, to not at all. She was still attached to her ex, with whom she has a daughter, though they were broken up for a year, and was involved in a bi relationship with what she considered her "wife". I was constantly wondering if I did anything wrong, asking her if she was mad at me about something, etc. Then she said I was whiny, clingy, mopey, and needed therapy for my baggage. One of the last times I spent an evening with her, we had gone out to the store for groceries, where she literally bought boxes of cereal for ex to eat at her house. Being a hopeless romantic, I thought she was going to be the one, and wouldn't play games. Did I miss the warning, and not see the writing on the wall?
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