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My partner watches adult films knowing how I feel about it
Relationship Stress / by sunnyShip6354
Last post
 March 15th
...See more Okay so to make this short, one time I surprised my partner by visiting them at their house (we live separate and in different states) anyways, I saw the good ole large lotion bottle next to their bed. I made a joke about it but then later told them to throw it out because I knew what they were doing with the lotion next to the bed (they even admitted). Anyways, my partner has never had someone tell them to stop doing that even though they have been watching adult films for years. I trust my partner but this one thing bothers me. Few months pass by and my partner gets another large bottle of lotion claiming it is dry and cold outside so they are getting cracked skin etc. …. Now I don’t want my partner thinking I’m crazy but I can’t help but to think they are at it again with the lotion when I am not there? I mean there isn’t really a way to tell if someone just totally stopped cold turkey after years of doing it right? So I guess I just don’t know what to think or how to overcome this as it makes me not want to give the affection I want my partner to have from me… any advice? Would love to hear both sides to your situation similar if you guys have any..
Is wanting a traditional role in a relationship bad?
Relationship Stress / by sunnyShip6354
Last post
 February 1st
...See more So my boyfriend and I have been together for little less than a year and things are good. The one thing that stresses me is that I’ve always liked a more traditional role a man plays in a relationship. Example would be paying for our dinner dates, planning things for us, etc. that is just what I am used to and what I personally prefer. I don’t think there is a right or wrong to any relationship and their dynamic but this is just what I prefer. Anyways, he prefers to split almost every bill. He says he does not make a lot of money so I don’t pressure him or mention anything. He says he wants to save up so we can move in together(also assuming we are splitting rent). He speaks of marriage and all sorts but I just can’t see myself marrying someone that isn’t the traditional manly man that I envisioned. I want to bring this up to him and be super honest. I am really bad with confrontation and don’t know what to do or how to say things. some more context: recently I told him I would love flowers from him once in a while and he bought me flowers the weekend after. I wish he would want to do these things on his own if that makes any sense. Same with the whole situation above, which is also another reason I’ve been hesitant to bring it up. I’m thinking if he wanted to he would? Any advice would be appreciated…
My partner has Erectile Dysfunction and I feel lost
Relationship Stress / by sunnyShip6354
Last post
 December 26th, 2023
...See more So to keep things as short as possible, my partner has E.D, and we’ve been together for months. It has been this way before we met he says. Apparently years. Anyways this has been a bit of a struggle for our intimacy so he went to see a doctor. Doctor told him he needs to speak to a therapist or counselor for anxiety and depression. My partner has also been watching adult films for years but I am sure he didn’t tell the doctor that as he feels embarrassed about it. I also told him it makes me feel that it ties into the E.D. a little as I feel I am not good enough. Every time we become intimate it never leads or ends anywhere. Versus when he is on his own with adult films everything is working fine… anyways you get the point of this I’m sure…I love my partner but I’ve never been with someone who has experienced this and I don’t want to put blame on him if he has no control over it. If anyone has any advice on how to navigate through this that would be helpful. I’d love to hear either side’s experience of this scenario and hear both sides. I want to be supportive but everytime we are intimate I can’t help but feel less than. Its a shame because I’ve never felt this way before. Any help would be appreciated. Thank you
Am I overreacting ?
Relationship Stress / by sunnyShip6354
Last post
 November 27th, 2023
...See more To be straightforward: I’ve been seeing someone for a few months now and have found out in person that they watch adult films often. At first I wasn’t really too bothered as I thought maybe everyone does this so I should be fine with this. But our intimate life is not so well as I believe he might have ED… so you see where I’m going with the adult films… has anyone dealt with a similar situation? My partner said they will stop when I brought up how I was feeling, but to be honest, that itself is not really comforting. Especially after the numerous times I try to spice things up in our still very fresh relationship. Any advice?
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