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straightforwardLion9986
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Burn out
Parenting & Pregnancy / by straightforwardLion9986
Last post
 April 29th
...See more Hi everyone, so I apologize if this ends up being super long. I’ve got a lot on my mind right now, but I’ll try to keep it short. I’m not really sure if I’m hoping for advice, or support, or what, so whatever you’ve got, I’ll take it!! So, I currently have a 1 year old boy, as of a couple days ago, and I am 20 weeks pregnant. We just found out we’re having a girl. Unfortunately, this second one wasn’t exactly on purpose,… my birth control failed, so my kids are going to be 17 months apart. Everyone around me keeps telling me how great it is that they’re going to be so close in age, and they’re all so excited, (including my husband,) but I am just super overwhelmed. I already feel like I’m failing at EVERYTHING, with only having one. He’s a year, and I still haven’t gotten him transitioned to a sippy cup, I can’t figure out what to feed him for solid foods, he’s trying to walk and is super close, and now I’m supposed to switch him to whole milk instead of formula. (I had to stop nursing when he was 7 months, because I got pregnant, and stopped producing. 😢) but they’re telling me I should have had him using a sippy cup for the last 6 months, and i didn’t know that!! I also ended up on antidepressants and anxiety meds for postpartum, and I haven’t fully come back from that, so to have pregnancy hormones on top of that hadn’t been great. I feel like the worst mom in the world, because I haven’t been bonding with baby at all since getting pregnant. I’ve just been super anxious, overwhelmed, and honestly, terrified. I feel like my house is a complete disaster all the time, we’re always running out of dishes, I don’t feel good, and I don’t remember the last time I actually made dinner for my family. On top of that, we live on a farm, so that’s what my husband does for work, and we love it, very it’s been struggling lately, so we’re at risk of losing the farm, he’s working crazy hours, but he’s on salary, and we just aren’t making enough to make ends meet, so money is tight, so now I’m looking at trying to get a remote job so I can still be with my kids, and I feel like we don’t have any help or support, because we don’t live near my family, and everyone in his family has a lot going on too, so they’re not really available to help with everything. My baby is supposed to be coming in May, and I don’t know whether to try and transition my son to a bed, or try to get another crib, and either way we can’t really afford it, and the place we’re living in is currently still unfinished, so I only have one bedroom, and my son’s crib is set up in the living room, so we’re trying to finish the second bedroom before baby comes, but we just don’t have the time. I feel like there’s too much going on and I can’t keep up, and every time I try I mess something up, and it all feels kind of hopeless, and I just don’t know how to be a good wife and mother anymore.
Relapsing sucks
Self-Harm Recovery / by straightforwardLion9986
Last post
 June 16th, 2022
...See more Hi everyone. Umm, so, I struggled a lot with self harm in the past for multiple reasons, but I haven’t done anything in over a year, and haven’t even been bothered with thoughts for probably about 6-8 months. Recently my husband and I got pregnant, and I’ve gotten super depressed, and with that, a lot of my self harming thoughts and tendencies have started coming back. I’m really struggling because I honestly kind of hate myself for it, which obviously doesn’t help. I just don’t know what to do anymore, and every day I’m terrified that I’m going to completely relapse and put myself and baby in a really dangerous spot. I’ve tried talking to a few people, including a therapist and my husband, but I just can’t get it to stop, or even just become tolerable.
New-ish
Depression Support / by straightforwardLion9986
Last post
 June 17th, 2022
...See more Hi. I’m Melissa. I’ve been using 7 cups off and on for about 4 years, but I’ve never actually participated in a group before. I’ve always struggled with depression, and after some really bad years, and trying different medications that never worked, I finally found myself in a pretty good place, and was doing a lot better. My husband and I recently got pregnant (12 weeks today,) and for the last couple weeks my depression has gotten a lot worse, and I’m basically back at where I started years ago. We had a couple miscarriages before this one, so when I got pregnant, I was super excited, and all of a sudden I couldn’t care less. I have no desire to be pregnant or have a baby, and I don’t feel like I’m bonding with it or anything, and it’s just really hard because I remember being so excited and grateful, and now I’m just not. And I know it’s just the depression, and that it won’t always be like this, but those thoughts being me no comfort, and I just don’t know what to do anymore.
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