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...See more My Ex completely blindsided me one morning two weekends ago, telling me he didn't see any long-term compatibility, and that he can't give me what I need. I'm bitter that we never even had a conversation about our incompatibilities and how we'd be able to compromise and get better for each other. I also believe his breakup was a reaction to a misunderstanding when I asked him to get better at staying in touch with me. I went No Contact immediately. The first three days were filled with painful crying spells, but it's gotten better since I signed up for weekly therapy and starting a group workout class. I've also been immersing myself with projects and school. I've been praying more for guidance and healing. These actions have helped me feel better little by little. No matter how busy I get I still get moments of self-hate, and self-blame for everything that has happened. Today I am especially vulnerable. I am secretly hoping that he'll turn around so we could try one more time. He's a kind, sweet man with minor dismissive avoidant tendencies which I didn't think was terrible. Not defending him, but I considered him to be the best boyfriend I've ever had. In past relationships I was abused/mistreated many times so in comparison, he's the most amazing partner I've ever had. But I'm also paranoid that he may have just deleted my phone number and never want to hear from me ever again. Pulling for help, words for comfort, anything.

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