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Trying to figure out what I’m feeling
Relationship Stress / by resourcefulBirch849
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 February 19th, 2022
...See more Hi and I apologise in advance if this is rambling or in the wrong place, I just needed somewhere to write this down to try and figure out what’s happening. So as a bit of background, I am happily in a relationship with a woman (about 2 years, maybe) and all is good. She has a husband and I have lived with them both for about 6 years, we met at university and all lived together as friends to keep costs low and things developed from there. Today they are going on a holiday for 4 days which will leave me home alone to look after the dogs. This is where the issue is; I just don’t know what I’m feeling. I have a fairly anxious attachment style and i know that sometimes I struggle being home and wanting to message but obviously not wanting to disturb them. We are all good friends and message a group chat regularly even when they are away but I don’t want to be the one to initiate if they are enjoying time away together but then also I don’t want to feel like I can’t message my own girlfriend. I really don’t have any bad feelings about them being away together and in my opinion they need to go spend some time together as they’re both very busy. I think I’m just uneasy about the potential disconnection between myself and girlfriend and felling like I shouldn’t contact, or even anticipating that it will feel that way. I asked to spend a little more time than usual with her yesterday and she went above and beyond so I really don’t know where any of these feelings are coming from. Again, I apologise for this just being my thoughts on a page but if anyone has any suggestions they will be great fully received. Thanks.
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