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quickwittedCucumber89
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What do you do when you're overwhelmed.
ADHD Support / by quickwittedCucumber89
Last post
August 27th
...See more When you're feeling overwhelmed with tasks, what are some things you do to help calm and center yourself?
Moved back home
Trauma Support / by quickwittedCucumber89
Last post
September 2nd
...See more Hey y'all. New here. I came home for a holiday and decided to stay as a family member wasn't doing so well. Previous to me moving I did live with this family member helping with things they could not do well on their own...I do have plenty of other family members who live close by for preference Family member had surgery and needed help with watching the dogs while they were in hospital. I was working over time each week but said I could help, but would also need help on weekends as those days I pulled 14-17 hour shifts. The weekend came and I became sick on Saturday night. Reached out for someone to help as I usually make it there Sundays to stay throughout the week. Noone responded. I found out my niece was there every day after school for a few hours with her mom picking her up but didn't attend to animals if I wasn't there. I knew some shifts of ran longer than usual they may have an accident as they don't go into crates while Noone is there. After finding out niece and her mom were there every day and still coming home to accidents, I set my boundaries about staying there. I live about 30 minutes from family members house and work 45 minutes away while other family members live 5-15 minutes away, 2 of them passing the house to and from work. I asked for a little help and didn't receive it openly. I finally said I could no longer help with the animals because I wasn't able to have any time to myself between work and driving to their house. My family no longer talks to me, holiday plans were shared with all but me. I feel I could have an accident and no longer be here and they wouldn't care. Setting boundaries felt great at first but coming from a family that was so close and now it's like I don't exist has really hurt me.